FRIEND ZOOOOOOONE

I just lost my best friend of 8 years over a complicated relationship.... she had just been through a miscarriage and a hard break up with the would be father...... I've always had a secret crush on her when I was 15... but it slowly evolved into me falling in complete love with her....... I gave her everything..... we cried together...... she told me she loved me, but later to try to ignore that..... turns out the whole time they were messaging each other about getting back together........ She is the one for me and I have no idea what to do other than wait...... I have been crying myself to sleep every night for 2 weeks now.... I hate this... I'm 23 and had never really been in a real relationship with anyone to be honest.... It took so much time for me to finally tell her how I felt about her after all these years of knowing each other..... (Probably because I have the lowest self confidence/self-esteem of any person I know......)And I thought that she felt the same way.... and part of me likes to feel that she still does.... but it hurts bad... and now she doesn't even know if she can be my friend anymore.....:(

I was put there a while back. I had a really strong connection to her. Unfortunately I moved. Her feelings plus the distance equaled a super "let's just be friends." All you can do is accept it and be friends. Gotta keep it moving. It does hurt though.

ITS GOD DAMN ANNOYING TO BE FRIEND ZONED. But after being in that zone constantly for awhile I don't care.

Don't think of me as high and mighty or anything please.. :( but being in a relationship isn't all that.. i'm here to look for friends because being in the relationship i have hasn't made me feel complete. i love my bf with all my heart, but i still felt immense loss when my best friend moved across the country. :( us females (that's all i can really speak for at the moment) are bitches not worth being friends with if we don't cherish you and make good memories. yes, if you're in love with us and we don't want to date you, it sucks... but it shouldn't be heartbreaking to be friends! it should still be a good relationship, i've been there and used to hate being rejected to only be friends, but the times i felt the happiest were when i made wonderful memories with my best friend. it's kinda like in fairy tail, the love of your comrades strengthens you... i don't hate being friendzoned anymore... friendship is just what i want the most

I keep getting stuck there. Mostly because I have a belief that a lasting relationship starts off as a friendship =/ It's my fault really, a trap I keep falling into.

Dear people who complain about friend zone. I am about to piss you off. Would you rather be led on? You probably deserved to be friend zone, why? Obviously she or he did not like you that way and you should not force it. I myself have been friend zone and got sad because of it but then I remember there was no way of it working out if she was not even considering me in the first place.

Dear Drako2k0, obviously it is not obvious to you if you keep falling into the same trap like you stated you have. I can tell your post is defensive and in reaction to my post therefore you believe it applies to you. Here is a pro tip, try something different. You sound like you know the problem but have not fixed it yet. There is your problem. Option two, continue what you have been but with subtle changes in order to avoid being friend zone. If you are unsure go out and have a fun time with that person to see if it could work out.