Pro Choice / Pro Life. Which is a deal breaker?

Now this is a touchy topic but I thought it would be interesting for us to state our opinions about this. <p>Would being <B>Pro Choice</b> or <b>Life</b> be a deal breaker in a relationship for you? <P> Now keep in mind that I just want your opinions about this. No preaching! Don't go attacking members on here for their beliefs/opinions. Respect others here yo! <P> You don't have go into full detail as to why you are one way or the other. If you need to talk more private towards others, PM them please. Keep it clean. <P> As for me, I'm Pro Choice all the way. Does my partner have to agree with me? No, but must respect that about me. I won't tolerate a preachy significant other trying to sway me on this.

No, someones opinion on abortion is not a deal breaker to me. It is an issue we men have no right to vote or interfere with. However, if I did have a partner who is against abortion and doesn't want kids I might as well get a vasectomy at that point. If I got a person pregnant and she wanted to keep the kid and I didn't, I'd sign away my rights as the father and let her have her way. I can't deny someone their happiness if kids are more important to them than me.

(Nods) <p> I see. I didn't even considered that scenario. Cool. I'm kinda 50/50 about kids. It's not that I don't like them. I rather be responsible about it. Man, I just got an ear full on FB about abortions. That's what inspired me to see what our fellow MaiOtakus feel about Pro Choice / Life as a deal breaker or not.

I'm more pro-choice because things happen where it's not feasible to have a child or complications occur (among other issues). Plus it should be up to the individual woman to decide what happens since she has to cope with it. If married, the couple should discuss the issue of pregnancy (even during the engagement stage of the relationship before marriage) both in their views and what they would want to do in case of complications.

^ A lot of that's why I'm pro-choice. I believe it depends highly on the situation. I don't think it should be seen as a form of "birth control" or something of those lines just because someone didn't take the pill, use protection, so on and so on. Situations where the mother's life is at risk, child will die due to complications anyway, and if impregnated by rape then abortion should be used. That's my view anyway.

I definitely feel this topic is a deal breaker for me. I can honestly say I don't think I could ever get one myself if I happen to accidentally get pregnant, but absolutely NO ONE has the right to dictate to someone else how to live their own life. I would never be in a relationship with a pro-lifer. Of course if there was better education on different types of birth control out there this topic wouldn't be such an issue. Really if some aren't taught how to avoid getting pregnant then that is usually the choice they are left with.

Well while I believe that abortion should not be used like birth control, I do think it should really be up to the person who is going to carry that life. And if you find yourself in a relationship where one of you wants kids and the other does not. You should really talk that out as soon as you find out. Cause you may grow to resent eachother. But personally I do believe in pro choice. It could be deal breaker if my partner tried to push her beliefs and values on me.

(nods) <p> Keep it comin' MaiOtaku-ers.

Being the anti moralist I am I do not think that laws and ethics should mix. Every restriction you make to a law such as abortion hurts at least one mother and one child. People, in general, aren't perfect and not everyone who should take responsibility is able to. Restrictions on abortion means more single mothers who can't or won't take care of their kids, more unwanted children put into the adoption system and more economically disadvantaged children. A fetus is alive, yes, but think about it, every cell in your body is alive as well, a self contained organism, just like the fetus. By the logic of pro life we should consider how a swollen appendix or a bone tumor feels about being killed by being removed from the body. And just saying, I don't support it as birth control, but as guys we have no idea what the procedure actually is, so none of us really have a place in this argument.