Names

I just wanted to post this to see if anyone else could relate. I have always disliked my real name, it really does not feel like my own. Whenever most people say it, it just makes me feel awful. I guess it is because all my life my name was mispronounced and made fun of. And some of the people who treated me the worst said it the most. It is a beautiful name, but only on other people, for me I just feel like it is completely separate from myself. I feel completely dissociated from myself every time someone says it for the most part. Can anyone else relate to such feelings regarding their birth name? I'm curious.

First off, I'd like to say that I think it is really unfortunate you've had that experience of being made fun of but I can relate. I'll preface that over time I'm not in those situations where I am made fun of anymore so the conclusion to my tale off the bat was that I've grown to really like my name, its uniqueness, and the meaning of it. But when I was little, in grade school. My name was really made fun of because of how similar it sounded to an animal and that's what the bullies used on me, I hated my name. It was in middle school when that same nickname was used more endearing by teachers that I liked that I grew to have fun and accept it. Now sometimes I even introduce myself using it just to get the pronunciation across with the dissonance of spelling! I don't have any solid advice I can give for you without knowing what your case was like but at the least you can appreciate that there's a stranger like me who really likes all the strange names in the world since I have a strange, foreign name too. There is not a single name I don't like! (Caveat being if your name is like "Facebook" then I have to feel bad for you. )

Yes honestly I hate my first and my last name my mom named me after one of her old friends and my last name is my dad's last name who hates me at this point and it makes me tear up just listening to someone calling me back my last name honestly growing up people used to play around with my name make fun of it even if they knew how to pronounce it eventually it started persustenting and I hated it I started going by my middle and my nickname after that

@kamendd thank you for the very lovely comment and story! I can only imagine how hard that was growing up! And I am so happy for you that you have grown to appreciate it, I admire that.

@Lolax27 No problem! I've always made clear to people I've met both online and offline how I really value all types of names and do my best to do it justice so I always pronounce it as best as I can no matter how weird because I really think everyone deserves to be able to have their name properly said. ^^

@liloreo that really touched my heart because it is similar here. My name brings up so many bad memories from when I was a kid, it is only if people I truly love say it, then I can hear it. People used to always purposely call me other names or spell it wrong. But I have had situations where I cry hearing it and I always felt guilty for not taking the last name of my mother. And I am happy you could find a nickname you like and go by that! Sometimes that is what is best! <3 thank you for making me feel a lot better too!

Imma name my kid: "Beerus The God of Destruction"

Alephy brings up a good point if my future kid is a girl Imma name her Ameria And my son ....well I don't know till I find a name for him imma just call him boy like the god of war

I can relate to you. I don't really like my first name, even though it's common and considered "pretty", it feels weird to be called my name by anyone other than relatives (who use a shortened version). Maybe I am just so used to friends using my internet names.