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Right after my surgery yesterday, I came home to this gorgeous wig in the mail. Made the day 100 times better! (For anyone interested, it's Tea Leaf Layer by BelleTress in Marshmallow Blonde) I've worn wigs for a while, but this is the first luxury one I've tried and it's worth it. I am shocked by how natural and beautiful it is. Looks and feels just like my real hair before my asthma got too intense and I could no longer bleach it.

I know I'm a little late, but here's my input. For context I fell deeply in love with someone who I fully believed I would spend the rest of my life with. I had a medical emergency and they flat out told me they did not love me and hadn't for a long time. It's heartbreaking, I know how you feel. I'm sending you lots of hugs. I bet you've been told half a dozen times, "This too shall pass." I know it sounds like an empty platitude, but there's truth to it. One day, it may be a very long time from now, this won't feel as intense. The pain can and does fade, maybe just a little, but it will. But for now, be patient with yourself, and let yourself feel the sadness and process it all. My advice is to invest in yourself. Know that you are lovable. You are worthy. Work on building yourself up. When this first happened to me, I was a mess, collapsing on the floor (literally) believing I would never feel anything good again. It's still hard to feel like I can find love again, hell I may never find marriage/romance again, that's just life. But building yourself up, surrounding yourself with the people you do have around, and being gentle with yourself will pay off. Don't force yourself to get "back out there" in the dating scene too soon. The other relationships we have in our lives, like with friends, parents, etc. can sometimes end up on the back burner during long term relationships. You might be surprised what you find when you tend to those other relationships more. I've found myself getting so much closer to my mother and best friend since what happened to me. I also feel more grateful for these relationships. Listen to yourself and how you feel. Get to know yourself again. Sometimes in moments like this we just need some good friends around and we mistake needing friends for wanting romance. If you are lonely, putting yourself out there for friendships can be super helpful and just as fulfilling. Don't put romantic pressures on connections upfront, that often just leads to more disappointment and rushing things. I only say that because I tried it recently and it only made me feel worse. Just see where things go with someone. Separations change our perspective sometimes. Our tastes change. Giving a person a chance without putting too much pressure on where that connection goes, will take you a long way. My best advice is to try something new and find what makes YOU happy and who you are as a person, outside of a long term relationship. I know that feeling though, when you go to bed it's the hardest. Believe me, I've had some sobbing nights going to bed alone. I try to reframe it. That time you spend alone is not going to be wasted. What you're doing to work on yourself, raise your child, work hard, etc. that's going to come back to you one day. You'll just have even more to share with that special person when you do meet them. Don't give up hope! That's a message for myself too lol