Why are you single?

haven't found someone I am really interested in. (in real life/close enough to actually try striking up a conversation or let alone a date) most probably because I don't like going out and thus rarely am at places where other people that are potentially single are. 2nd reason, I think, or at least from the experience so far I am not attractive to the other gender, neither visually nor while talking since I take things mostly at face value and this is not always the way the conversation is supposed to go, according to them...if you say something is impossible I go out and profe (with logical arguments) that it is possible.... yes I know but I can't help it but do this.

In my case it's a mix of not being attractive and not having that great of a personality to back that up. Not saying my personality sucks but overall I'm just a normal person. In most cases people connect thru looks and then personality does the rest. I don't give a damn about looks but it's usually not the same way with other people (or in this case with the people I come across). For me it doesn't matter how good looking a person is if their personality sucks. Also add to that the fact that I don't take great care of myself and I spend most of the day working long hours like 12 to 14 straight working hours, so I don't have the time or mood to go out and meet people because at the end of the week I'm usually tired and fed up with alot of stuff. If I do go out it's just something causal with friends like having some drinks and chatting for hours to come and not really finding new people. I am also very shy and have low self esteem so at first when I meet new people they don't find me interesting. I do eventually open up and I consider myself to be a friendly person but I take too much time to get there and sometimes it's too late.

Looks like you know your issues @rtae86. Believe me, it ain't your looks.lol Often times we know the issues, but we're to afraid to change ourselves for the better and we get stuck in a rut. All I can say is this, don't continue in your rut, for yourself. There's not a certain type of person you have to be, you just have to be you, the best you. Be happy with yourself first before you even want another to be happy with you. Looks are the first thing a person sees, but just as if not more important is how you carry yourself. Have you seen most couples? Most people aren't lookers.lol So, what else do you think it can be? Food for thought.

I can’t trust girls/women anymore it hurt too much being betrayed and now I can’t take them seriously anymore. And can you really love someone if you don’t trust or take them seriously ?