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Hi there A heartless dude here wants to change would you help him My problem in simple words is - I can't love someone back cold feelings yeah what the fuck is wrong with me -_-

Well, let's start with assessing some things, as I personally do not have the context or knowledge needed (Or even the psychological training) to properly diagnose what could be causing that. But some help is better than none, I suppose. So, Dr.snow, could you elaborate a little more? In what way do you feel you are incapable of loving someone?

Yes, it is helpful. Trust issues tend to manifest in a variety of ways, and opening up or lending your more vulnerable thoughts towards another is one very common such way. I tend to have a bit of trouble with that myself from time to time. (For example, I spend too much time alone, so I kinda develop minor antisocial behavioral traits, like dulled emotional expression.) And it's something that really takes quite a bit of practice before you can really get comfortable doing it. As for not feeling anything. Are we talking like literally any kind of emotion whatsoever? As in outside of the realm of romance and in more mundane facets of life?

Well... yeah. You never want to have a relationship where you can't be yourself, or be honest with the other half. Anyone who has experienced a real connection with another, be it romantic or friendship wise, would know better than to expect a saint. Still, there is no one alive who doesn't need to manage their mental health to some extent. I will say that love isn't really a feeling. So if you aren't feeling the hormones that every love song ever claims you should be, don't worry about it. Just gotta explore yourself and your feelings is all. It's not comfortable, it isn't always very fun, but it is worth it if you ever want to establish a true connection with someone. And hell, sometimes just being honest with your feelings is all you really need to do to forge one. Other times, we don't even realize we have certain feelings, because we have this idea in our heads of what the feeling needs to feel like, and it doesn't match up with what it actually is. The human mind tends to like to trick itself. And the ability to push all the bullshit aside and analyze one's self objectively is an important skill to cultivate in life.