As you age...

I feel a person's twenty's is usually about figuring out what's actually important to them and a lot of things seem silly to get worked up about in hindsight.

Arguing for the sake for arguing and shunning people who don't conform to your thinking is not only futile, but just an attempt to stroke one's own personal (lack of) pride and values. Teens do this all the time on the internet, as you said, mindlessly calling others "jealous haters" and such without rationally having data/evidence to back up their point, but there are also plenty of 20-30 year olds who are still insecure about themselves and do the same exact thing to....cussing people out because they can't process different opinions or perspectives or validate other data, never maturing as people. But, yeah, all that is entirely different than debating, asking questions on certain topics, and standing for what you believe in, but having the flexibility to admit mistakes/faults. Cause there's only so many people that can respectfully and logically challenge older, more experienced, and professional adults pertaining to topics on one's job, purpose, meaning, and goals on a anime dating site filled with younger users....and instead you'll get comments on more people affirming their own beliefs, shitpost, or have users not know how to contribute...and what would you gain or learn from it? Enjoyment? New ideas, perspectives, and opinions? Is that worth anything or interest you and align with your dreams and goals? When people get older, such talks and sites like this can become more futile to them as they strive more for purpose/meaning, focus on their profession/goals/dreams, and start assessing the futility of their current and past actions, resulting in certain activities one used to enjoy suddenly becoming dull....rather than younger people who are still establishing their identity, what they stand for, and challenging others beliefs/ideas they don't agree with or know a lot about, as Audio said. Yet, while older people in their 20s or 30s are typically the ones who stay away from sites like these, its also the older users that DO stick around that contribute more to these topics rather than all the teens on here who date someone they just met a month ago or make friends to screw around with. People start wondering "Are you around here to find someone? Is talking, debating, asking questions, memeing, and shitposting around here just a past-time? Is it worth it to you to stick around and debate/bring up about topics like this? Or do you feel you could you be doing other things that would be more fulfilling to you?" Plenty of people come and go through this site and move on, while there are others who stick around for a variety of reasons, so, in the end, it comes down to your values and purpose....whether you think this site or some random comment from people you don't know on the internet are worth your time...and decide how much you want to disregard something that doesn't further you towards your goals. I myself always find it interesting to learn new things, see questions like this, and hear others opinions/perspectives from other people, especially in the forums, even if it likely won't contribute to my profession or goals/dreams. When I see something I disagree with, I don't confront it unless I think I'll learn something from it or if it's a debatable comment that's potentially spreading misinformation...otherwise, I'd be messaging in every forum post there is. Then again I'm only 20 hahaha. I think a lot of the arguments on the internet are illogical, futile, and narcissistic, because on the internet, people are much less accountable for what they say and typically what you say will be posted for all to see. But any argument can turn into a rational and respectful debate if the people involved are willing to cooperate and exchange/debate information rather than call each other idiots while disregarding everything that someone says. Whether what you talk about or learn from such debates/arguments hold value to you or is just white noise....is up to you to decide. Prioritizing and seeking arguments for ego or to feel accomplished would just highlight insecurity and one's lack of purpose/meaning...to me it makes it all worth it to simply learn more about people, but I never jump the gun and identify a person with an opposing view as an antagonist and instead I avoid arguments to try and instead establish debates. Arguments always lead to more problems. Many people, adults included, don't know how handle differing opinions without one arrogantly casting judgment on another for having a different view they disagree with.

Arguing on the internet is not my cup of tea. >As I grow older, I learned to acknowledge things that fuel emotion is just some lame chemical response to the brain.< If that was the case then, why would I exhaust myself about it. For Example: When I was young, I use to discharge emotion when it was unattended. It would hurt a lot of people without me knowing. As I grew older. I saw the destruction I have left, and the people I tore apart. At this age I thought it was unpreventable to not hurt people. I thought I can do whatever I want because its human nature. Then it happened. I don't need to be human anymore, therefore master the ultimate chill, robotism. Now: I just sit back, and watch the world burn. I place my emotions into the third person. I feel through other people as a outlet. @judgmentoftherain is a very poetically reserved individually, that makes me filter and relate to so easily upon. I am always interested in what he needs to say. I say arguments are worth having, because those who fight hopefully would learn. Not to fight anymore, and begin to accept that people are who they are. People with their own opinions, values, and objectives.