Who I want to be

Because, i don't know. i want to be accepting of everyone's beliefs (unless they're obnoxious and wrong (such as Hitler's (extreme example but i'm just saying stuff that would be considered wrong in (almost) everyone's eyes))), and since i want to accept everyone's beliefs it's hard for me to form my opinion on things. i also believe it's boring not to have an opinion on things. i don't know whether to use my head or my heart, i don't know when to choose my head or my heart. My gut feeling ends up usually hurting people. i do have opinions on politics, i have some hobbies, I have some character traits. it's just the little things, such as my head saying: animals don't have the capacity to think for others (for some species of animals it's not this way but just in general), and my head saying: leave a dying animal, it's better that way. but my heart saying: you should call an animal ambulance. i have a natural gravitation towards choosing what my head thinks, and i think that kind of depicts who i am, but it sometimes just goes directly into another belief and it's just a big clusterfuck of things i want or don't want or traits i want, or don't want. uhh. right. you might think: you seem like you have character. but i'm in the middle with everything, and i don't know if i want to be here. personality tests: i've never gotten anything below 7% for a personality trait (as in, there's like sliders that go from 0-100 and i'm always inbetween 43 and 57% with every score, i don't really know how to word that). tl;dr can anyone give their own advice, i'm afraid of hurting people i care about and losing them because of my own opinions, but i want to voice my opinion too because i don't want to be boring. i know not everyone's compatible, but i just don't know.

You're young yet to conflict and lack of direction are hardly unusual. Hell I'm quite a bit older and I still suffer from the same thing although not in the same way. It is possible to accept other people's beliefs without believing whatever it is they believe. For example you can accept that some people are very religious and are devout in their faith without believing in God or ever going to church. You seem to view having a solid opinion and being open as mutually exclusive and that can be true. If you have a strong opinion on something and have both logic and emotion to back it up then something else you might be less open too. You can try to "please everybody" but in the end you'll most likely please nobody. When I was younger I too wasn't nearly as confident to voice opinions or even really form them especially political ones. You're probably still figuring out what it is you really believe which is totally okay. The main thing that should help you along is to stop seeing the world in such a "black and white" "this way or that way" as if there is no middle ground. This is locking you into a pretty unwinnable conflict.

I agree w/ the DERP. We all somewhat go through this. It just seems like you have thin skin and don't want to hurt ppl's feelings. You don't need to care too much w/ ppl think of you. Just keep going w/ your gut and some common sense. Like they say, haters gonna hate. So what if you could've save that 93 year old granny by calling an ambulance, you thought someone else would do it. Does it mean it's your fault she died, NO!

I feel like I always hover around the middle of the scale for those types of quizzes too. My myer-briggs results always seem to change depending on my mood at the time. I have lots of friends who don't necessarily agree with my opinions on things and I don't agree with their's but we can all still have conversations about it because I know they're not bad people and they know I'm not a bad person. If you really drill down to it, we all have pretty similar reasons why we believe in certain things. It's really just finding that common ground that you can build on

Not everyone among my friends agree with me, in many topics my ideas and view even hurt theirs.. but they still remain my friends ._. things like these have never affected my friendship with others! Max. To max what i have seen is some of them wouldnt prefer to talk about those topics with me.. but nothing more distant than that.

My best advice? You seem to be afraid of saying the wrong things because you're afraid that it will either hurt, or anger them. Well stop. Seriously, just stop, I imagine you have common sense right? Well use that common sense to say... Not say "Dog's Can't think" to a person who just had a dog die for instance. Otherwise, whether it, let's say it's about something Controversial in general, so no matter the opinion it'll be extreme to someone. Like, Abortion. Whether you are for or against, Abortion is a heavy subject, and it's a way to make people pissed off really easy. So, say your close friend, or girlfriend, or whatever, Is for it, and you're against it. If they bring it up in any capacity, you should never be afraid to say your opinion to them. If they stop being your friend or lover, due to your opinion, than you aren't truly important to them, or they'd listen and try to understand you. I understand, you're afraid to be alone, you're afraid to lose people important to you. But you can you say someone truly cares for you, that you are important to them, if you have to walk on egg shells around them? That just a wrong word, or opinion can cause them to break it? You're better than that, and I hope those you call friend, are aswell. Trust in them to be good enough people not to do so, and if they do, They weren't worth the effort to begin with. Just do what you think is right. It's a balance, and only you can tell yourself where the line is, and when it can and shouldn't be crossed. For your scenario, it depends. What kind of animal is it? How badly is the injury, What are you doing? If the animal is obviously roadkill, I won't stop and be late for something important. I'll give it a sad glance and move on. Maybe that's me being cold, Maybe it's pragmatic, But it's my decision. If it's one of my animals, I'd definitely call an ambulance for it, and be late for anything, But that's because of personal bias. If I was walking, or been out of my car anyways, I would if I thought it had a chance, Otherwise I'd wait and comfort it for it's last few moments. It all depends on the situation for me. As most things should. Being a centrist on things isn't a bad thing, However, Being seen as a centrist because you're afraid to say your views, Is.

You're going to make mistakes. You're going to piss people off. You can't please everyone, because everyone is going to want something different out of you. Don't even bother trying. Please yourself with who you choose to be. You're afraid to make a decision because you are afraid of making a decision that is wrong. The reality is that no matter what you choose, your decision will ultimately be lost in the sands of time and forgotten. Think of all the great people in the world that will never be remembered again because we failed to record their historic accomplishments. Your life is a blank piece of paper. Draw on it, crumple it up, make it into a paper airplane, or burn it to the ground, it doesn't matter. Just have fun with it, and don't regret anything! There's no reason to be afraid.