First loves! (&breakups)

my first crush was back in kindergarten (٥≧∇≦) our names started with the same letter so i thought it was fate and we played together at recess all the time and went to the same church. I crushed on him up until middle school. never asked him out and everytime someone asked if i liked him i denied 100% everytime (°▽°٥) stopped liking him because when i recalled all our memories together all he did was tease me n steal yugioh cards/bracelets from me lmao havent really crushed on anyone since and i've never dated so i have no interesting breakup stories (٥≧∇≦)

First love ended up frienzoning me :D

Well I have had bonds and breaks, but the only one that really hurt was the woman I asked to be my wife and whom gave me my son. Now to be honest I am kind of a tool in relationships, takes a lot to make me emotionally available. Not saying it cannot be done, but I would need a lady that I can feel I can trust.

For me, I think at most probably a month or a little longer. Every relationship is different because the experience roots each person differently. However, I think there is a set of steps that needs to happen before you're fully over it and the faster you plow through those steps then the faster you're at ease. 1. Let it all out - Give your self time to just let the emotions run out of you. Cry, yell into a pillow, eat some ice cream and cry over romantic movies or anything that just allows you to empty out. 2. Set a deadline - Set a date to allow your self adequate amount of time to indulge with #1. After this set date, you focus on just recuperating and rebuilding your self. Start a new hobby, read a book or dive into something that you're interested in. Just focus on you. 3. Re-immerse - Take opportunities to just chat with people, rekindle old friendships, reunite with family, join a meet up or social gathering. Just chat! 4. Imagine your self with someone else - Once you're at this step, you're pretty much completely over it. You are a brand new YOU and nothing is going to stop you from taking over the world! It doesn't have to be a serious thing or anything but once you start to wonder what it's like to date someone that you've may even have the slightest of interest in, then you're ready to be on the market. I am by no means a guru or anything, these are pretty much guidelines or flags to recognize which stage of post break up that you're on. It's pretty much how I thought of it when I went through a break up my self and have talked to others that went through the same thing. I hope that this was insightful in anyway, I wish all the best to your friend!

My first love was someone way out of my league. He reminded me of sunshine with his smile, not the hot blaze of summer but a comforting warmth like when you get unexpected kindness from someone you've only met. I was 10 back then so it all came to me as doses of adrenaline and anticipation if that makes sense, I would be so thrilled to see him every day in class. I think what won me over was the fact that he was able to talk to anyone, he's easy to approach and he's very much kind. Being a 10 year old who gets passionate about the things that she likes, my whole class knew I liked this person (lmao my old classmate told me this, no surprise really). He had another love interest however so I did have sad times where I would be stricken by the odd feeling of jealousy. However so, he was still very dear to me. He has this really mesmerising smile, it's quite lucid in my mind even now. It looks and feels so sincere. I'm lucky to have had him as my first love, I'm glad that he was in my milieu.