Red flags

Hmmm someone who's literally against perverts, or someone who is open minded and says the truth. You can just tell who's bad and who's not and or someone who continues a conversation. For i dont really mind since i cant keep a conversation going but its rather interesting to have it one sided.

I have witnessed many times as high conflict individuals have singlehandedly destroyed many groups of once close knit friends. Both from the outside view and first hand. So yes, I generally have never liked being around people who destroy the harmony that others have built. I just don't do drama, and will either actively have always tried to mediate problems in a group before they get to be problems, or shy away from drama entirely if it's something I feel needs to or will inevitably play out. A lack of respect towards the wishes and feelings of others is a big one. So people who try to guide my decisions or push me to certain outcomes, like dragging me to a dance floor when I clearly don't wanna dance? Red flag. I also pay close attention to how people treat their friends, and how their friends treat them back in return. How they talk about others when they aren't around the subject. It's one thing to relieve stress by getting someone else's behavior off their chest. But if someone's aim is to gain social status with others at the expense of someone else? Gross. I also look for signs of megalomania, sociopathy, and manipulative tendencies. Needless to say, as an INFP, I tend to prefer people who are of a more compassionate and empathetic nature towards others. And let's not forget that whole toxic "You're either with me or against me" mentality. I can see it from a mile away, and it has destroyed one too many of my friendships, and one relationship of my own. This one is less a deal breaker than any of the above ones, but I notice I don't jive as well with people who lack either an imaginative mind, or a curiosity towards new things. I'd prefer being with someone who has at least one of these two qualities. It's what put's the wind in the sails, so to speak.

Hypocrites. Not just in a potential relationship, but people in general. If the person is a hypocrite, all other lousy traits a person can have are right around the corner, such as ignorance and dishonesty. Sure, we ALL have the tendency, but some people might as well be roommates with it. If you're a huge hypocrite, I don't like you. At all.

A red flag for me is when someone has a controlling behavior. First of all when this just makes you think of the lack of trust that person has towards you. I don't really like people who keeps secrets from me as I am really open to those I consider close friends, family, etc. and like to keep it that way.

if they communicate indirectly in a passive aggressive manner. They are toxic, they are the type who will tell you they are fine but deep inside they are boiling with hate. they fear confrontation, whenever you confront them they'll pretend to be nice, after that they will continue their nasty behavior. You can check their social media, if their status messages are them hating on something or someone on a daily basis. Flee from them, they are not worth your sanity

My red flags is someone who only cares about themselves. Short conversation unless its about them. Talks bad about their past relationships. Judgmental narcissist basically. Too cocky. Talks about men as if they are just play things. Just be a kind hearted person and you're good with me. Lol