Red flags

People that start saying "oh you draw? That's cool! I'll never be able to draw or do something good in my life I'm useless and don't have friends and oh you are so better than me TwT " Like betch I have low self esteem, but I left that for when the person likes me

Now this whole first section is going to sound very specific but you won't believe how many people I've dealt with who are like this: A big one for me has always just been manipulative people in general, never been a fan of people who try to control or influence me whether it be through things like virtue signaling during a debate to try and make me "feel bad" for my views or things like spinning stories so that they're always the victim usually to spark empathy with a party not involved with the conflict in said stories so that they have people on their "side" when another argument breaks out...even if the reality is that they were definitely in the wrong in that case. They're also usually huge opportunists that will change their views and arguments when it's convenient for them usually to gain leverage with certain people. People like that are just untrustworthy and are the largest source of unnecessary conflict in life in my personal experience at least. I have no love for people like that and honestly wish I could spend my life never associating with them again, unfortunately reality is never that convenient and you simply can't escape shitty people. :u Close-mindedness and ignorance is another big thing, I have no time for people who have a worldview that is basically comprised of what they see on TV or hear from friends/family...Don't get me wrong though, all of that would be fine if that was the extent of that since everyone spends their lives learning and there's always room for more knowledge to take in buuuut the sad reality is that there are many people who also have no intention in changing that, they're just content with being ignorant and are sometimes even proud of it on top of that. That's a giant no for me, no questions asked. Narcissists are another thing, there's nothing wrong with loving yourself or being confident in yourself but it's a red flag for me if a large portion of our conversations is you talking about your accomplishments and how great you are and/or just having a very superficial attitude towards life in general. And now here's the opposite: people who are complete downers. I'm a very empathetic person and I can relate with people who have low self-esteem and just overall low confidence. But even I have certain point where all of the self-bashing and complaining about what you can't do gets old. There's seriously nothing pathetic about being weak, bad at certain subject in school, overweight, incompetent, unemployed, etc...it's the act of remaining that way and not making an effort to change that's pathetic. Impulsive types are definitely a red flag also, and I mean I'm not talking the "fun" type of impulses like just going on a completely unplanned vacation somewhere just for the hell of it. I'm talking about the stressful impulses like wanting to break up over a single argument, breaking and/or throwing out things that belong to the person they're angry at simply out of spite, harassing them, vandalizing their belongings, etc...All of that only to just pop right back up at their house the next day to apologize and beg for them to take them back. That sort of stuff. Thank god I never dated anyone like that but I've had the pleasure of seeing those types of people in action so I got a front seat experience of the type of people to definitely avoid when it comes to dating. :u I swear I'm going to end up editing this post a million times because I've dealt with so many shitty people in my short time on Earth. There's definitely red flags that I'm forgetting. :u

It's a bit hard to talk about some I've come across without people knowing I'm talking about them and getting offended when it comes to stuff I've seen here. Although I will say that Guro is a pretty big red flag. I met one girl here who was pretty great and it seemed we got along, till they mentioned being into guro. That's when alarms started going off. I've met my share of strange girls here into horror and violent stuff and have tried to accept that women really like that stuff for some reason, but guro is a whole other story. Things ended up falling apart soon after anyway. Another red flag which is more common is when girls say they love food or enjoy eating a lot. Should be pretty obvious where things are going with them. Probably the biggest one would have to be having a ton of ex boyfriends and failed relationships. Most people seem to turn a blind eye to this, but I think it's a very clear sign there's something wrong there. 'something' is going on with this girl that causes all these relationships to end, and chances are yours wouldn't be the last one if you get involved with them. And before people get confused and start flinging insults at me and arguing with me I'd like to make it clear a red flag doesn't necessarily mean the person is undatable. They're just warning signs telling you to be careful and watch your step around them, and maybe not get your hopes up.

Red flags for me or things i don't like are -beating around the bush about any topic (i don't like it, it's usually obvious, and i will respond with being just as oblivious ;3) -being SUPER negative, like i get it sometimes u just need to vent but I hate when someone is in a bad mood and you try to offer something positive but they always have something negative to say about your positive -ppl who belittle me during the convo, assume i'm stupid, act like their above me >.> -ppl who always have to be right ;; or forcefully try to get me to change my opinion e-e -pretending to like things that i like -inappropriate topics out of the blue -sexual jokes depending on context https://i.pinimg.com/originals/07/9f/c1/079fc1f31dd22089c713547e4ddbc6f3.jpg

Uh, I think you are on the defensive too much neeto. It's not the first time I read a post from you like that. I doubt someone would start insulting you for that post, or others I've seen. Well, I don't know if you had a bad experience of that kind here, so maybe I'm speaking more that necessary. On topic, I can't think many red flags. I'm really antisocial in the first place, so I avoid a lot of people just taking in consideration their overall personality. Those extroverted people who are really loud are a no-no for me.

Whisp, maybe you're right, but it wouldn't be the first time it's happened. A lot of people get offended very easily. Which is another thing I'd say is a big red flag, since those are people who are easy to set off and would leave a relationship being nothing but non-stop arguing.

people that start asking inappropriate questions out of nowhere. also people that to possessive? they seem to think the own me and get angry when I don't give them attention. people that can't reply more then 4 words! people that talk shit about others, they kind of piss me off.