To keep going or find another way.

It's actually been a couple of months now. (btw, they use this site and are reading this thread) Really sucks though. Never much liked this site but I've stuck around for years in hopes of meeting someone who wasn't a walking disaster. Lord knows there's enough ghetto drug addicts and white trash where I live to pick from. Just to get hit on by more skanky white trash here, or have decent women lead me on then vanish soon after time and time again. One such person for example was "Akane" from MO, who wasted my time leading me on for months. Even though I was more than willing to drive out there to see her, she refused to make time for us to meet up, claiming to be busy with school. In spite of that we managed to set a date to meet however, and a couple weeks before that day arrived she broke things off with me and got together with someone else here followed by them deactivating their account. Normally I try to respect people's privacy but that was just felt like such a bs thing to do. After finally meeting someone decent the relationship goes on to be the longest lasting one I've ever had, but then that flame went and faded into a small flicker over time. Due to language issues and cultural differences, it's now hard to find anything to talk about, and even then there's almost constant misunderstandings. We've been in daily contact for more than five months, but these days it's little more than forced small talk. Both of us being intj might have something to do with that too. What's funny is I've met women on this site I could talk endlessly with but who I found utterly unappealing or even disgusting. women I could see being friends at best with but nothing more (although sometimes they only want to be friends to get their foot in the door). Sure this girl here isn't perfect I admit, but they're about as close to it as it gets. I can overlook their problems because they more than make up for it in other ways. They're on board with some of the things I want the most out of a relationship. They don't have any of the problems local women usually have (They don't do drugs, they're not fat, they don't sleep around, have tats, an over inflated sense of entitlement, and so on) The only real problem is how indifferent and unattached they act. I know women tend to be reserved and don't like making their feelings clear, and instead prefer to drop subtle hints. but after nearly half a year with someone you'd think they'd stop beating around the bush and just admit their feelings one way or the other. I've spoken to them about this and they claim to not know how to express their feelings, not that it seems like they even try. Like others here have said and people I've spoken to in private about this, she really does treat me more like just a friend. Been having to hold back because of this, even though all my life I've wanted to meet a girl I could spoil rotten and shower with gifts. Like people here have said, it's been feeling really one sided. She wont even change her status here on MO, and has told me on multiple occasions she'd be fine with me looking for someone else as long as I keep in contact with her. She says she wants me to be happy, but this to me sounds like she couldn't care less if I leave her. I mean, how am I supposed to feel about that?

I usually just move on, if you guys dont click and are having trouble communicating imagine how a relationship would go. Honestly if they were your dream girl/guy clicking wouldnt be that hard it would be instantly

I'd say give it a bash while you still can but don't be afraid to move on if you don't connect. It's a lot healthier knowing there's always someone better for you out there. Then again after breaking up with my most recent ex (for an admittedly very good reason) who was pretty much perfect in every way to me, I can also see why that can be pretty difficult for some people :I But ignore that part, you didn't read anything shhhhh uwu

SOUNDS like it might be one sided if she does not care if you meet somebody else. It's a good thing one wants the other to be happy but if it's a lover it should be happy with her and not another woman. Don't let your bad luck with women hold you onto the first girl you met that meets your idea standard if the relationship really isn't going anywhere. It isn't fair to either one of yall and it's basically like holding onto water. It will eventually slip through your fingers. But since this is your relationship you and her are the only ones who can really decide on what to do. We can give you the st perfect opinions on this but if you do not agree with it or fear the results of taking these advices it means nothing. Neeto, you really need to come up with where your guys love stands if it exists and exactly what you feel is best to do. Sounds like you might be starting to get the feel of just how strong your ties are with her from a part of your latest post. This is my final opinion I giving. Best if choices with your heart.

Dear Neeto, I though that the question was hypothetical lol If it's been for 5 months without clicking, and they is just "meh", go back to friends. That, at least, is what I would do.

Love is a selfish emotion. It begs for the other to be happy *with* you. It sounds like she either feels guilty over her feelings, or she doesn't really have any feelings of those and all, and just has a sense of obligation. But sounds like it's a long distance relationship. It can't be heated all of the time, but if agreements are made about it then it's possible to maintain and build upon meeting, or if you can find activities online.

Depends. No relationship is going to have things to talk about all the time. Sooner or later you both will know all the things they can about you, Now that doesn't stop you from talking about recent events and things(which is why having a similar political or core belief system is in my opinion, quite important.). BUT that said, you both should be interested in each other's lives, if she does not show the same interest you do, Then that's that. Never settle. If they aren't right for you, then they are not right for. That's that. Holding out will only make things harder.