What are you most attracted to?

I see we have many men and women of culture in our little site. It makes me so proud. http://78.media.tumblr.com/04b7383c4b57e22c1e7f18885b233c94/tumblr_inline_niny7rDBqr1sr9uij.gif

personality someone nonjudgemental, compassionate, kind, caring, honest, protective, and very strange someone who wouldnt judge me as well looks wise? mmm facial symmetry i guess? idk, iv been attracted to some guys who arent conventionally attractive,but were cute because of their unique look plus handsome men make me feel insecure, like im not good enough for them :s (although ofcourse i can put that feeling aside if i love them for their personality >w>)

Mentally, I like when someone has plain common sense. Thats the easiest way to describe it. But to go a bit more in depth... You dont have to be a genius by any means but be respectful...I dont like to be touched if I dont know the person very well. I like when someone who can appreciate the little things in life. Me, I can be happy just being in someones presence. I didnt know this but it seems I really hate when someone tries to read me...AND FAILS. Working on why I hate it, but I just know I do. Is it a cop out to say I really like nice people? Yeah I think so...Lemme see...I like people who arent super uber sensitive. There that better? Funny people... Dont really like a ton of energy. If they like Naruto thats a plus =3 As for physical stuff: Hmmmm......Is it me is this a forgotten subject in todays generation? People talk like the outside doesnt matter at all... Long hair? I dont really care what color. You know typical anime guy hair length and longer; bangs. Clean shavin. Though some people can really pull it off. Maybe even a little girly looking? I dont know how better to say it...I dont really like super buff guys. Like at all, if they're anymore buff then say... Christopher Hemsworth..I really cant... I like scrawny people I guess XD Bright colored eyes are a plus, but any colors fine really^^

Personality wise: Kind, compassionate, loyal, honest nonjudgmental, I wouldn’t mind if their is some shyness. Physical wise: I want someone that takes care of their appearance but doesn’t go overboard(like supermodel or actress), long dark hair.(not great at writing what I look for physical wise)

Lamby- Strange you say, Well, There are plenty on this site, Seems like you chose the right dating site! I can see the appeal of liking a unique look. People that stand out are always easier to notice. And don't say that! Alot of attraction can be made by just confidence alone. We're all just people after all. Blissful- I can't say that's what I'm looking for, But it's great to you know what you like! I'll be sure to send any liberal thinking women your way man. Yeah, I can completely agree with the dislike of those that are close minded, And I doubt anyone enjoys being told What they should be doing in their lives ha. Gold- Yeah, common sense has seemingly become more and more rare these days ironically. Totally understand the feeling of loving the little things, and enjoying each other's presence, Infact I'd say that's pretty necessary, seeing as at least 70% of the time later in the relationship that's all you'll be doing. I think everyone likes nice people, It's just whether they are willing to see when their partners aren't being so. God, I enjoy dark humor way too much for anyone sensitive to survive in the room with me longer than five minutes. Naruto, win, all I'm going to say there. I don't think it's forgotten, more many I believe are afraid to admit, that they'd prefer to be attracted to their partner, Since it's become mainstream that looks isn't what's important. Which to be fair, it isn't what is most important obviously, However that doesn't mean it's not at all. It's healthy to have a level of attraction for your partners in my eyes. I don't think you can really call Thor scrawny hahaha. I mean gotcha, Hulk is off the table! hahaha. Jodokon- Sounds pretty solid. I agree that it's important to try to take care of themselves, it shows a sense of self love in my opinion, which is always good. It's all good! We can't all describe what we find attracted in tiny details. Alot of us don't even know what they find attractive, mentally or physically after all.

I'm looking for a woman to be my shelter from the world, to soothe wounds that nothing else can heal, so this will take a while. Physically: Mostly slim, roughly my height (5'8-5'11 ish) enchanting eyes (no preference for color, the appearance just needs to be soothing yet striking.)generally pale-ish skin. Nice style, cute fashion. I mean, anyone who knows my profile pic and what she's about will understand my taste. Or at least, I hope they do. Also important, a nice voice. Why is it difficult to find a woman who can meet these physical standards? Oh wait, prolly because both men and women have forgotten what it means to sacrifice for the sake of the other. #RomanceIsDead Emotionally-Earnest. I do admire frankness. However, I am also very temperamental and slightly off-kilter. So someone soothing, yet holds me responsible when I slip up on my work. I want a woman who I can hold equal in respect. I can't stand bimbos w/too big of boobs, but can't stand too small-titted bitches. Christ, this is just our friggin' reality ain't it? Idiots and bitches, no wonderful woman in the middle. Since my own family history is obscure, I guess the best romantic example I can think of is Asuna and Kirito. Asuna functions as a sanctuary for Kirito's tormented mind, Kirito brings Asuna the first male with stability without being overly aggressive. Kirito and Asuna trust each other implicitly, and honestly have a relationship humanity can learn from. I don't mind if she has emotional issues and damages. Trust me, I friggin' get it. I happen to have issues with the manic side of my bipolar. It can terrify people and even be a problem w/o medication. Which brings me to my last piece on the emotional side. A willingness to accept a person with HEAVY emotional baggage. It isn't like I am opposed if she has issues as well. Since I've been around all forms of abuse in my younger years, as well as hurt, pain, terror, despair and death, I can understand if a woman has issues. It may seem contradictory at first, but you would be surprised with how two people with mental issues know how to work with each other to heal each other's wounds. I also don't mind a narcissistic woman, and ALMOST prefer them, since they also take great meticulous care of themselves to fuel their ego. Hell, I don't mind a woman with drive, and one of the things I'm fine with, is if the woman wants to be the worker, I happen to have enough domestic skill to take care of a house if I have enough motive (I.E. to be with a woman). I happen to have enough cooking and cleaning skills to take care of a house. The issue I have is getting in the door with a woman, but I think that once I obtain the woman of my desire, I can easily keep her. Despite my many negative problems, most men only are good at closing the deal and shy away from any form of commitment. Despite my emotional and social disabilities, I actually really love romance and marriage concepts. I admire it, so sue me if you dudes find it a bit "effeminate". However, my focus is always keeping even my most basic friendships/familial relationships, as it is a struggle with my personal disturbances. I want a woman I can be proud of, and vice versa. I couldn't give a single flying fuck about anyone else, as they are worthless, since they won't treat you with kindness unless you give them something. Being on here, hearing my flaws helped me develop a better pitch to women and find my more positive attributes. You get a mature adult in a person, rather than a so-called "adult" that acts like a child. I'm a one of a kind person. A person who has all of the tools, and with a woman at my side, we would easily be the "It" couple. So yeah, good luck peeps who ragged on me, because I took what you said about me and spun it to a positive mentality. Thanks guys, because you inspired some confidence in myself.

The one weakness I have is in my own appearance, ironically. I happen to sport facial hair because it is one of the things I take pride in. Despite my somewhat light weight at roughly 180lbs, I have been struggling with dropping that BMI remaining baggage. Not to mention that despite being only 27, due to certain circumstances, leads to me being a bit balding to say the least. My facial hair is my one source of confidence in my appearance. So it feels depressing when women want "No facial hair, no body hair, etc." I get that I might end up sending confusing, mixed signals with my appearance contrasting with my personality, but quite frankly I'm not good with keeping up appearances.

Well it's good to know what you want in depth so well, makes it easier to find what you want, when you know what to look for. Random fun fact- Men actually hear a woman's voice they have attraction towards, through the side of their brain that perceives music, instead of basic speech. Just means you're looking in the wrong places. Not impossible to find what you want, but you may also end up finding something different than what you expect in terms of things such as looks. Or a few personality quirks. Finding someone who's willing to be your rock so to speak, Isn't an impossible thing to find, not even close. I know alot of girls that would be happily willing to do such things, That don't care about baggage, Hell my Ex was one of them originally. Will just take work and time. Plenty of gorgeous(From any variety of what you find gorgeous), free, Wonderful women in the world. I don't recommend dating a narcissist. Trust me. Just don't. I didn't have mental issues, and it fucked me up hard still. Sure they're amazing at first, confident, fun, and seem totally into you, But the moment you slip, they become the most abusive people on the planet. Especially vocally. Not something you need with your trauma. Alot of guys love romance. Hell even with my dark sense of humor, and love of all things that are gore, violence, and gruesome. I'm a romantic myself at heart in many ways, I'm also realist however. There are two type of people looking to for relationships, Takers and Givers. You want a giver, of course everyone has a bit of both, but, Each one focuses on either the other person, or themselves. That's not to say date someone without self respect, but one cares about what you can get out of the relationship rather than the person. Always a good thing to inspire confidence in yourself, Confidence is half of building attraction with girls, on a more physical level at least. Positive thinking, always good, whether in relationships or any part of life. So good job on that. For that all I can tell you is, Exercise, Eat healthy for the weight. If your exercise and diet isn't working, change it up. You often need to do that at times. Especially if you want to grow muscle and strength. The balding bit is easy, go shaved or buzzed, Can make a balding spot non-existent or really not matter. My brother's had one since his late twenties. Just go with your weaknesses and turn them into strengths. But you need to do what you expect out of relationships, That means if you expect her to keep up her appearance you should probably do the same. Not all people will expect it out of you, but most people with self respect, man or woman, if you expect something out of them, They'll probably want the same.