Is Love Meaningless?

LOVE is hard and complicated but not meaningless. Like yasshat said it takes both sides to commit in making it work. It's unfortunate when one side just gives up but it just means someone else will hopefully get a chance to find love with you if you will let them. Love is also not instant. Love is to love the person themselves and that does take time of knowing each other to see if love can grow. Reason for dating. Once they get to know the person most of the time they find love can't grow with that person. Now: it is true life ends, but that doesn't mean living is meaningless. Live to find and keep what is meaningful to you. Question is joker do you really feel meaning in love and desire it in your life? If so than fight through these disappointments and keep looking. If you truly believe it has no meaning than live for something else that holds strongly to you. Is love meaningless? Not to me. Is it meaningless to you? Truly a feeling in your heart that it is? Well, I can't answer that. Only you can.

Does it have to have meaning? Even without meaning, there is value in it. And I think it is pretty beautiful. I can go on and on about the bonds of fate, how magic and spiritual energies intertwine with the bonds, the various forms that love could take (from friendship, to family, to romance, blah blah blah), but I'll spare you guys that and focus on reality. Love is a cycle. It has its good stuff and its bad stuff. And no matter how many times you experience love, you still have to deal with both. After all, a cycle only ends when something prevents it from repeating itself. And cycles are nothing new. Our fingernails get too long, we trim them. We start to smell bad, we take a bath. You don't just stop bathing based on the inevitability that you will get dirty again, do you? Exactly, so find a comfortable temperature and enjoy the water while you can. Subjecting your own meaning into something as simple as hygiene simply adds flavor to life. Now do I think there is meaning in love? Absolutely. Do I try to figure out what it is? No, because it's a concept beyond my fathoming. I simply enjoy it for what it is. I love my friends, I love my family, and I love myself. And whether I die forever alone or not, I'll never give up on the chance to fall in love. No matter how much better or worse it leaves me.

Love is not meaningless. There are so many meanings about love invented by so many different cultures. Love is a complicated blend of emotions. Fear, attraction, acception, and lust. You can't just describe it in one post alone. You have to experience it first to even understand. Granted I never had my first REAL heart break yet, but that too is a part of love. So many people assume they are in love when they first get with someone, and honestly that is just lust. When you look the other person in the eyes every day and think to yourself how perfect she is despite all her flaws after years of being together then you can say you are in love. There is scientific explainations for love being about a chemical in your brain that is released when you are first in a relationship and over time it fades, but when you experience again and again with the same person even after it fades and comes back again then there is something special within itself right there that science can't even explain.

Love is inherently meaningless, as it is entirely arbitrary. It is so easy to be rid of, so difficult to earn. Therefore, since the tradeoff isn't fair, is it not therefore inherently meaningless? Then again, I don't have the emotional experience of "loving someone" when most of what I feel is jadedness and contempt for others. On the flip side, there are benefits to love that musn't be ignored, and that is its impact upon your own psychology. Being with a person on that intimate of a level inherently either changes you positively or negatively, depending upon the person. You could get a positive change in yourself if a woman is kind, beautiful, honest and responsible. At the same time, it could be a negative change if she's crass, ugly, abusive, or in some way makes you feel unsatisfied or incomplete. It is arbitrary notions like love that don't matter. We pursue love not for its meaning, but for its benefits.

Rise and Shine Ursine!!! First off I'd like to thank everyone for your inputs so far, as I said this has bothered me for some time. That being said I've thought about it and I'd like to put my two cents in on this. Personally I believe love is like a drug, addictive and it can be torture when your withdrawn from it. Both people share that feeling together and it makes them happy from it, like a side effect of sorts. However like any drug it can have effects when the person is withdrawn from it. It can hurt, make everything around you bleak and worthless, it can even negatively effect rationalization in a person. Of course these aren't all the possible side effects, it can also depend on how it is withdrawn. Heartbreak being the biggest has the most potential side effects, the biggest being pain in your chest. Theres also sadness, depression, even suicidal thoughts can stem from heartbreaks. Of course these and other potential side effects only stem from those who were broken. The second way to feel heartbreak is death. I'm gonna be real here death isn't something anyone likes to talk about, but it is an inevitable fate for all things. A heartbreak can happen from death especially if your truly loved that person. Like with most drugs however theres two ways to go about withdraw, rehabilitation or finding another source to obtain it. In this case finding someone else to love, which in the case of death being the heartbreak's catalyst is harder to usually bounce back from for most. And to answer your question kameiya I really did feel a need to love and desired it. While a tiny part of me still desires it my need for love has diminished greatly if not completely. My last gf confessed her love to me before we were together, but while that sounds adorable the interesting thing was unlike other times I've been confessed to...I didn't really feel much of anything. Bottom line I've come to a somewhat solid answer for myself. Love is truly a meaningless concept. no matter how much you want it, it will always escape your grasp eventually. It is just another one of our humanly desires that we futilely chase in our lives. Some are destined to have it temporarily while others will never be able to, it is the rule of survival of the fittest and if you don't make the cut then you never pass on your genetics causing extinction of your family tree. As a certain flower once said: In this world, its kill or be killed, the same can be said with finding love. While it might not be a solid argument to some it is the answer I've come to, changing it is potentially impossible now. Thats my opinion, be it confusing or not. So til then... https://i.ytimg.com/vi/bBw1HNjAdFU/maxresdefault.jpg

Love by itself is meaningless @Joker, but as a bi-product of companionship has meaning and purpose. Living a solitary life is not sustainable, we all crave companionship. This could be from a lover, a friend or a pet. Love is something that helps secure those bonds. Will it matter at the very end of time if you found love? Most likely not, but in the span of your life, finding someone to share your time with is needed in order to keep your sanity. Like I was saying before in my first post, take it slow and enjoy getting there. You'll only push people away if you rush it. Good luck.

My stance can be summed up in one statement. Love itself is not the source of meaning, but illuminates the value, beauty, and meaning in the world around you.

Live and learn. Unless you're a true sociopath by definition, you'll live and learn. It's the Hollywood love that's truly fake, but often sought. Love? True Love? Yeah, it exists. Look up these four, the Greeks had a few good ideas on love, philia, eros, storage and agape.