Serious talk about a long term realtionship

It is what it is I suppose. If anything I can use more friends then a new realrionship. Better to find someone when God points you the right way not be impatient and jump. All I got now is my faith.

Siru, On occasion, you make perfect sense and I'd say you definitely hit the nail on it's head with that.

Here's what I believe, I believe (If there's a "God") God does not hold our hands so much as help open doors. We are given so much in the way of strength and ability and I dont believe for a second that any god would want us to just be passive infantile fools. In other words, if you know what to do, do it. The fact that you question so much, just means that you see the issues. You need to be happy and if someone or something is keeping you from true happiness, it's time to move on. I've kept my other responses rather short, but I'd hate to think that someone is being so passive about their own happiness. A relationship is a bond, you must be able to "relate" to the other person and if things seem so far out of balance, chances are that they won't just magically be fixed if an ultimatum is given. If he is happy with the thought of no children, no marriage (No commitment) and putting you as second or third in his personal life, let him be. You will not be happy without balance and fairness, so be fair to yourself. I, nor anyone here can tell you what to do, but I can say that I was there myself. I was scared to let go after being together for 6 1|2 years. I went thru a lot of what you've mentioned here, but guess what? Just over 6 1|2 years later, I'm married to the love of my life that I would never have met otherwise. I found the love that I didn't even know I needed. Not saying that's how it always works, but living in an unsure state, feeling neglected and not truly happy, that's worse than just letting go and moving on to improve and maybe find what is intended for you in life. Just my opinions, take them or leave them. Only you know what you really need to do.

I am sorry I disagree because when you want something to happen now it doesn't happen till god decides it happens. I believe that God has a purpose for everyone and everyone who follows/ believes in him. He will do all you have to do is ask and be patient. As said im giving all my issued and faith to god and ill let God decide what's best for me and what my purpose is for serving him a long with the right guy when it comes down to it.

Everyone has there own beliefs I'm a high strong Christian I believe God's will. I ask God for things all the time and most the time I am patient when I don't want to be. It part of faith.

I understand the power of faith|prayer, but if that's all you picked out of what I said, you missed the gist of it. You'll figure it out at some point, but only you can decide what to do, prayer or not. I'm not here to attack faith of any kind. Hey, here's something that might actually be of great help to you. Go to a church leader and ask about classes dealing with relationships or go to a church appointed premarital counselor(I mean, that's your end goal. So, ask your boyfriend to join you.), even if marriage isn't in the near future, there are many things that you should probably talk about if it's even a hope.