What is "nice and caring?

No doubt we're always encountering the "I want a nice and caring" phrase over and over. I'm not gonna lie I have absolutely no idea what this means anymore cause I get shit on everytime I am nice and caring ): tell me the secret of it!!!!

nice, someone who is kind and soft caring, someone who thinks of you and your feelings, and using that when deciding or doing something if you get shit on then perhaps your kind and nice to the wrong people, or your not kind or nice in that persons eyes? my best advice is just thinking of that person first, but not to act as a stepping stone just regard how they feel

Being nice and caring doesn't mean you should be a doormat. Any relationship, be it platonic or romantic, they all require a mutual effort. So in short, keep being nice/caring, but don't let people take advantage of you for it. Side note here, don't expect any thing other than common respect in return, if you are as you say, you aren't this way to gain anything in return.

I do have a bad habit of letting people use me as a door mat. One day perhaps I will meet the right girl who will appreciate my caring personality. :/

It is very possible to be compassionate without compromising one's self. The key is to understand that you are walking with someone as they grow on their journey. In that respect, you are not obligated to be their guardian, their guide through life, or their own personal white mage. And respect their decisions. You aren't obligated to make their choices for them. And it doesn't make you a bitch, a dick, or (insert derogatory term here), if you back out of a situation when you feel your boundaries are being crossed. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are. To be kind and caring means to look out for yourself as well as others. It means you share your abundance with others when you can. For example, a homeless guy asking for change? Buy him a meal. Don't give him your wallet. And lastly, never put all your eggs in one basket. Its okay to trust people. It's okay to open your heart with them. But no matter how comfortable of a codependence you slip into is, always retain your ability to act as an individual. Be just as whole when you are alone as you are with your closest friends, and nobody could tear you apart. This is how I have come to live, at least. And I can't actually recall any time I regret being nice or caring since I have adopted these personal rules.

Well nice and caring is this imo, nice is someone who cares about the other person feelings and emotions and doesn't do anything to harm that. Caring is this someone who again cares about the person, and someone who cares about the person feelings and is there for them and helps them but not to soft and such but wants to help them make the right choices and who is compassionate to them about there feelings.

I always care for the people in my life. No matter what kind of situation I am in myself. It would be nice to have someone who I love just care for ny well being as well.