Dependent Spouse?

Kind of complicated. I would naturally prefer someone who can hold their own and i can view as my equal. Were each other's foundation. I guess even i can be a little passive sometimes when it comes to stuff like taxes etc. mainly because i'm just beginning to learn the ropes of adult hood, so like illuminous said it can be motivating to take control and man up so i can ensure the well being of my partner. But doing everything can be very stressful on one person. I don't wanna feel like a parent-child relationship, i wanna be equals. I really admire a chic who can handle herself. This may be a weird analogy but hypothetically if i were to have a family, i wanna know that my partner is emotionally strong and can handle herself and the kids if i can't be there at the given moment. If you're too passive like that then people will treat you like a doormat.