Loneliness

I use to feel lonely a lot too. It made me depressed and I avoided people which would make me feel even more lonely. I felt like I had no connection with anyone. After a lot of stuff happened I started to get a more positive look on life. I started doing things that made me happy. Eventually I reconnected with my friends and made new ones. Now when I keep to myself for long periods of time I don't feel lonely. It made me realize that I felt lonely because I wasn't happy with myself and pushed people away.Now I'm the kind of guy that likes having people around but can also be content with himself. It's like self acceptance. How can you accept others if you don't accept yourself. Hopefully this make sense because it did in my head xD Also sorry for the rant hahahaha :P

i always felt like the unwanted one in the family like when i would visit my grandmother she wouldnt have a single care in the world for me but kept asking bout my little brother and mom then my cousins for some reason hates me and makes me feel like shit but love my brother then recently my irl friends started ignoring me and i dont know what ive done and...that is quite depressing but i try not to be depressed^^ cause i know people dont want to see me depressed^^

Over the last few years I lost contact to most of my friends after leaving school and now I'm just trying to avoid making new contacts because I know I'm done with school soon and I'll just never see them again anyway. For me loneliness just feels as if I just don't know why I'm even here. It's really depressing, but I guess evrybody has to deal with some weight, so I don't really wanna cry about it :D All the people who have to deal with depression have all my respect, I couldnt imagine how it would be to feel like that all the time...

Loneliness is a downer for almost anyone, but it's not lacking in the friends/family department for me personally. It usually emanates from the dating department. You see all these couples about and friends having successful relationships and you wonder what you're doing (or not doing) that makes it seem like you can never find anyone. I usually just try to keep a stiff upper lip and just keep pressing forward and do the things I enjoy in my spare time, but there are times when I'm sitting alone in my apartment internally frustrated at the fact I don't have a gf and no prospects for one on the horizon. It can happen to anyone. It's just what you do with those feelings that matter the most.

Holy fuck this thread is so depressing. OK I'll add in my own opinion. I think most people believe loneliness to be something you feel when no one understands you, when your dealing with something that the people around you can't relate to, I used to think the same thing, but that was when I was younger. I was going through a bunch of family problems and blah blah blah, so I started to get depressed and thought no one who was around me understood what I was going through, so in turn I started to feel lonely. As I got older I started to realize something, that to me loneliness doesn't have anything to do with how many people don't understand what your going through, cause if that were the case, then more than half the people on earth would be lonely, everyone has there own problems that a lot of people wouldn't understand, that's why I think that if you have people who care about you, even if it's only one person, then your not lonely you just haven't learned to appreciate them yet. Be grateful for what you have, and remember that there's thousands of people out there who are much more lonely then you think you are, people who actually don't have anyone in there lives to care about them, or help them get through the world.

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I haven't quite been myself since my divorce a couple years back. For a full year I could only sleep to one side of the bed because it didn't feel right otherwise. I've tried to make some friends through work, but I can never find anyone that shares my interests and so I tend to only talk with them every now and again outside of work. Right now, I'm back home on vacation visiting with family and old friends, and it's amazing how much better I feel. Surrounding yourself with loved ones and close friends does wonders.