Let's Talk(Big and Small)

@Otaku I don't like small talk either, but when messaging others I don't know how to start a big conversation. I also suck with talking with anyone way older then me like teachers. I just feel uncomfortable like if I slip and swear they'd punish me, that's why I was always on my best behavior around them, which ended up causing people to think I never swear (though my friends know I swear but never knew I don't around teachers lol)

eh... small talk is ok, but I'd rather discuss anime and whatnot rather than all the serious 'where will you be in 10 years' stuff.

If i don't talk to you often then it's small talk that will turn into big talk if the conversation is going well If you're my friend then we talk about whatever lol

To be honest I don't like talking about sports, I don't really watch them so I have no idea what to say when someone asks me about them. When I was little I used to say my favorite baseball team was the Red Sox. Not because I liked them (no offense to those who do), but I thought I'd be weird for not watching sports at the time, so I said the name of the only team name I knew :S

@thecomingdarkness777 Which was and is not really smart since you can drive yourself in a corner when people ask more about that team and you don't know what you're talking about. I think if someone asks you, just say: I don't really like sports and then change the subject to something else.

Though RP banter is a lot of fun, the initial entry level of small talk can grind on my patience. Small talk of course has its purpose. Find a connection with a complete stranger, verify that he/she isn't a low functioning psychopath, and bridge the gap between strangers fiddling their thumbs to two individuals with a common interest. But thats kinda the problem for me. I'm in love with the deeper mysteries of life. And when the circle of small talk starts to loop, or I'm not being given any interesting topics, or getting any feedback from anything I throw out there? Great! the weather's average, we've established that we're okay, and nothing new has happened. We've talked about life, but lets talk about LIFE! Even more mysterious than that other over rated mystery, death! The mathematical anomaly of creation in this otherwise perfect uniform nothingness! Lets talk about your hopes, your aspirations, your dreams! Lets talk about ghosts, and spooky scary skeletons! Please, for the love of whatever, lets talk about something, ANYTHING other than sports! I crave human connection! Not a carrot on a stick! Anyways, thats one reason why its so hard to even spark conversation. I actually have no problem with small talk. Its just when it doesn't progress... Grrr...

For me it isnt about the small or big talk anymore. It is whether if you click for the first time or not. Romance isnt the only thing that needs patience and chemical reactions. Friendships too. That is...if you wanna build one ^_~

I guess either is alright. I would prefer to talk about something funny to be honest. If you can laugh and have a good time then it's easier to get comfortable to discuss other things.