Should trust be given, or earned?

well i don't trust people easily https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-GigtHLbruFs/VlYk4fmIt9I/AAAAAAAAQig/1KmaUGADPdQ/w1080-h1402/yande-re-313593-fujishimasei_1_gou-hatsune_miku-pantyhose-vocaloid.jpg

Trust is earned. You get someone's trust by earning it. Trust that is given is much different than trust that is earned. I NEVER gave anyone trust. They all earned it. that includes family. I don't give you trust simply cause you're my boss/cousin/classmate/etc... You earn it. I would sooner do shit solo than trust a stranger for anything. That not to be confused with expectations. You may expect your boss to not steal from work cause he's your boss. That doesn't mean you trust your boss. Same way you may expect someone to be respectful and hold the door for you, doesn't mean you trust them to.

I'm not really sure that I completely understand the OP's question but I think to a certain extent everybody gives trust to begin with but beyond the initial superficial amount of trust the rest of it is something that needs to be earned.

When we say that we want to trust our partner, we are saying "I want to KNOW that they will never leave me or cheat on me". But, there is no way to ever know that. At best, you can believe that they will never leave or cheat. But, since you don't know that to be true, there will always be a lingering doubt or uncertainty. And as long as you believe your happiness is dependent on them staying and being faithful, then this doubt or uncertainty will be a great cause of anxiety. However, if you discover your self-worth and happiness aren't on the line, then this uncertainty won't bother you at all. Everything is up to an individual, Not your partner. It is rather foolish base your happiness on whether or not you can trust an individual. I do agree with the term that trust is earned, but it is can only be maintained by an individual; Not the Partner. There is nothing one can do to fully prove that they are worthy of ones trust, And You shouldn't really work to get someones trust, You should work towards helping that person or contributing to they're welfare. Trust is just something that comes organically. Like fitting a Block to a shape. Eventually as you come to know more about a person and actually get close, that's when it comes or it goes.