Would you date someone with a bad history/emotional background?

If they're willing to change or at least want to change, then sure. They need to recognize that it doesn't have to be that way and things could be way worse and way better. I really hate people who victimize themselves at every chance possible. If you keep claiming that you're the victim, you will never learn because you feel like you did nothing wrong. By the way, not being cautious is doing something wrong. 1st time, excusable. 2nd time, depends on the circumstance. A 3rd time? What are you thinking? Being emotionally unstable and having a bad history was not their choice, but moving past it is. If they choose not to move past it, well, I'm not one to board a sinking ship. Are you? There are people out there who I know are giving it their all to move on. Some people with major PTSD and they relapse often and they don't use it as an excuse. They want to move on and that is so freaking admirable. They don't want to lose anymore. TL:DR If they're willing to change, sure. If they're being stuck up and victimizing themselves whenever possible, no.

I'd date someone who has mental disorder/trauma if they weren't crazy. By that I mean that they lash out for every single thing. I'd be willing to date them more in that case if they were at least trying to change themselves though. I speak from history because I have a past of not knowing what to do. I will not however justify my actions because even though I have a mental disorder doesn't mean that the actions I made were right, nor was I in the right to make those choices. For those of us with a mental disorder, all we can do is move on and try to make the future right. There's no point in us holding onto the past. What's done is done. You can't change the past, but you can change how you will handle the future. It's your choice to make.

I definitely would, i mean you never know until you try. Besides personality matters the most that's definitely the deciding factor IMHO.

I'd been sort of casually dating a guy for about six months or so who had been severally traumatized. He'd been emotionally abused by his parents all his life and had serious depression and anger issues and while he was on medication, his best solution for this was to drink excessively. He couldn't go to college or start a career or live on his own because he lacked the will to be productive. He refused to get counseling, saying that it hadn't helped in the past. He would throw tantrums and basically flip his shit on a regular basis. I could never talk about any happy memories from my childhood because they would trigger him and send him into a downward spiral. Now, this wasn't the first time I'd been with someone with issues but that level of emotional trauma is simply too much for me to handle. I think a lot of people don't think anything of being with someone with these kinds of issues. They think if they just give them enough love and attention, it will somehow fix their mental health. Mental illness is just that- an illness. You can't just make it go away. The truth is, if they lack the will to treat their illness, then they are not a good candidate for a relationship. I myself have depression and anxiety. I've been the victim of abusive relationships. I have emotional scars that will probably always be there. So honestly, I can't really take care of someone else. If I'm lucky enough to find a partner in the future, it has to be someone who can help me take care of myself.

I would, but if we both have that, it'll be a mess so I guess in doing it, it's better to cure one's self first. Or you can help them after you help yourself.

why not i have a bad backround as it is. i used to be a hacktivist, got charged with asult and the charges where dropped (still feel like i need to go to jail because of that but i digress), got locked up in a mental institute because i was sucidel and still kinda am due to the fact that i am leagly considered insaid because of me having austism, bipolor, and some other disablitys, most of the problems i had where in my younger years but i still have that ocational fire of wanting to go agrinced soicity's standpoints and most of the time i question my own sanity so. yeah i would not care if i go out wiht some one with a past history ether like mine of worse due to the fact that i alread have one so i know what to expect and everything.

I tried but before we could even start he started comparing me to ex's and bringing up different topics bought up bad memories (not that I knew what these topics were ahead of time). So eventually we just were friends and even that turned bad. I tried to give him advice on life and relationships (yea I know me right -_-) it was actually pretty good advice though. It started becoming a daily thing every disscussion was negative or puttibg himself down over something. Eventually we just grew distant as much as I want to be there, it kinda weighs on you day after day. But I dont want to abandon anyone. Then there was another guy that tried to pop pills after a fight with his ex. Called me from the mental hospital and told me he tried to kill himself. Dont get me wrong hes still my friend and dating I wouldnt care if its in the past or happening but a reccurrent event that happens almost every 6 months I cant deal. Im already a care taker of sorts for 2 relatives and its not easy at all. Mentally im tapped out to give that sort of treament to another, as much as I may want to. Bad history I can handle/if still recurring depends on the situation.

I actually can't think of any ex gf that didn't have some sort of depression or anxiety or PTSD from abuse. I beginning to think you have to be crazy to like me, lol. But the reality is that most people have issues of some sort, just some people are better at hiding it than others.