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Would you date someone with a bad history/emotional background?

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death543
Yes in a way...if I love them the way I do.....I'll be the one to help her forget her bad past history...cus I too have my bad history.....and I don't wish it upon the one I love.....I'll be her every morning shine and her every night star....but I think I'm going off topic here lol
sanfi
If you think you can 'fix' someone with a bad history, you're gonna have a bad time. People with bad history often feel/have the need to work on themselves and a relationship tends to put that responsibility (partly) on the partner: "I'm not happy. Why aren't you making me happy?" I'm not saying it's bad to date someone with a bad history, but it's often a bad idea to date people who aren't capable of being happy on their own in general, so if that's the case I would try to stay away, even though I often still don't. I feel the need to make people happy, but I'm trying to get a job that focusses on that, so that I can find somebody who is already happy, which would make us the thing in each others lifes that makes our lifes just that little bit better ^^
xynomi
Fixing your partner is not something you should attempt. It's not your job. But as for "bad" history/emotional background, I am who I am because of the shitstorm my past was. So I have an appreciation for people who were only given lemons. Let's bond, m8.
poeticmysteryman
I have no issue with it. Everyone has their own battles to fight. If you love someone, you show them that you care and are willing to support them. Just because someone has a dark past or emotional background doesn't make them a bad person. Oftentimes, it is the people who know pain that are the most kind, sweet, caring, honest, and gentle folks that you would ever meet.
poeticmysteryman
Attempting to "fix" someone is not respecting who they are as a person. You should never enter a relationship with the expectation that you are trying to "fix" that person. The notion of "fixing" someone implies that you are accepting someone that you believe is flawed or unworthy of you. If you have to change someone to make a relationship work, it isn't working. It is best to find someone that you love for who they are; and that includes loving their strengths and weaknesses. If you cannot accept that person in their entirety, or if they cannot accept you, it is not worth it to continue that relationship.
oleka
Depend on the person tbh, if they are willing to change than there should not be a problem with it right? It all about the mindset.
wasistdas
Ofcourse I would. If you like someone, you are in love with her personalities and this including her backstory. There have to be a reason why she is like she is. If she has a bad backgroundstories I show her my apologiez and if help is possible I would do my best.
steelblight
I would, I wouldn't judge someone on something like that. We all go through tough times. If they're a good person you care about the pros outweigh the cons imo. Granted, no you shouldn't go into it trying to "fix" someone I agree but rather just be supportive of their attempt to help the situation. I usually actually find more connection with those who have had tough times as they're usually really understanding, caring, and open minded in my experiences. Not always, but most I have met. I have had tough times but it's made me who I am and i'm happy with that. Can't change the past but only what you do with your future and all that.
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