Too Much Honesty?

@lovelyass:Harsh. Though I sympathize. I too hate stupid people but what're ya gonna do? They're everywhere. @lunathecat: I run into this issue a lot as well. I've never felt a good reason to lie to people in many cases so for the greater part, I just don't. I've run into problems many times before and getting to brass tacks, people, in a broad sense, don't actually want to hear the truth most of the time. They run from it and try and cover themselves up in a world where things support them and make them feel better. Not that I blame them. The world can be a cruel one. So what do you do? There's no end to those who just want to hear what they want and can't accept the reality of the situation. You have a couple choices. If you can manage it, you can psychologically lead them into a situation where they can handle it. It's kinda like when you know someone can't accept what you're going to say and then tell them that you're afraid that they'll get hurt and you're afraid they'll get mad and you won't be able to talk to them anymore and that scares you because you need them as a friend but because they're your friend you don't want to lie to them. Suddenly after hearing something like this, there are those who would be more open to hearing something kind of intense but they might be able to accept it more since they might remember that your friendship is higher priority. Although it depends and is kind of a case-by-case issue. And can be difficult to manage. Your second option is just to openly refuse to tell them and hold your ground. Yeah you can expect some resistance sometimes but "eventually" people just give up on it because they realize it's just not worth asking so much. (Won't work on me though. I am naturally curious and will harass people till the day I die.) But you can surprisingly maintain friendships this way. Not relationships very much though. Your third option is to just openly tell them the truth. It's easy to maintain and truthfully is probably better for you in reality. But as many know, if you say something someone doesn't want to hear then things can get kind of sticky. Unless you're the perfect person, even if you're nice about it, you'll eventually offend someone. So it's not a great way to make friends. But once it's all said and done, at least you haven't deceived anyone and you can live with yourself for being yourself. Your fourth and final option is to just lie. Yeah it's arguably a terrible thing to do and morally wrong but it's also arguably the best thing to do. People can accept lies and as long as you can keep your stories straight and simple, you can manage your way through most problems. (Not all mind you. I don't really recommend telling self-condemning lies in a relationship. It'll bite you in the ass eventually.) In the end, you just need be able to develop a sense of "what do you think is important here?" Is the truth important? Are your morals important? Is the other person important? You should do what you think is most important. ... Then again, I'm kind of a jerk who's just too lazy to think about it so I just bluntly tell everyone what I think. So maybe you shouldn't listen to me lol.

I appreciate honesty I don't think you can be too honest ever.. if you want to lie about something you did you shouldn't have done it in the first place. Lying is a sin anyway you dice it; no such thing as white lies.

I don't think there is such a thing as being "too" honest. Honesty is honesty - I like it when people are honest with me, whether it's positive or negative about something even if it's to do with me. I'm the brutally honest kind of person and I don't want to bullshit anyone I talk to. If I like someone, I'll tell them. If I don't like someone, I'll tell them. Even if people may not like that about you, it is you and if they don't like you for you then fuck 'em. It's not your loss.