Too Much Honesty?

Sometimes I feel like people put a lot of weight into honesty, but never actually give any honesty... I can't seem to find my filter most of the time and end up being way too honest... But is there such a thing as too much honesty? I feel like I prefer blunt honesty because that's the way I am, but I forget people don't always want blunt honesty and sometimes would enjoy a bit of sugar on top.. How do y'all feel about it? Is there such a thing as too much?

There's no such thing as too much honesty, however delivery plays a huge part in it. There's a point in "blunt honesty" where you're being more blunt than honest which just makes you seem like an ass. I've had conversations with my friend where I've had to tell her that she's mentally immature and that she needs to work on her outlook on life, but me saying it like that is considerably better than saying "stop acting like a child, grow the f up or you're going to be miserable the rest of your life".

i'm always honest~ The trick is to skirt around things you'd rather lie about.

Right, what Jayghoul said. Honesty is never a problem, but expressing it does require emotional intelligence in order not to step on people's toes. There's a time and a place for a proper reality check, and it isn't "Always". Let people romanticize their lives when its not hurting you, them, or anyone else. And when its doing more harm than good, or even in the way of what they, you, or someone close to both parties wants to achieve, address it as harshly as you need to, and prepare your emotional shields for a nasty counter attack. I mean hey, if you aren't too savy at expressing honesty, don't worry about it. Social expression is a muscle that needs to be exercised every now and then. But there are just some people who don't grasp it too easily, and that's okay.

Honesty is fine. If there are aspects of your life you're uncomfortable sharing, I think timing is more the issue than anything. Everyone has flaws. The important thing is to tell the people you trust and are comfortable with the most. If they really do care about you, whatever aspects of your life or about yourself won't really matter to them.

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I really respect people who are open and honest, but yeah there are some things you're better off not telling the truth about. Sometimes telling the truth about some things can get you or others into a lot of unnecessary and avoidable trouble and people wont care if you're honest or not. That's mostly just with bigger more serious things though. I've been known to forgive people for things purely because they were honest about them, but there's limits to that. Besides, lies have a way of catching up to people sooner or latter anyway.

@Chocopyro-You're probably right. People get that I do it, and understand why, but I only know those who are close to me accept it. Honestly, haven't stopped to think of if anyone else besides my little crew accepts it, but I am aware people understand it.

I've never seen a reason not to be honest but than again I don't really have a filter between brain and mouth so I probably wouldn't be a good candidate to answer. Delivery is important but lying is always more hurtful, either to you or the other party. I guess it's just a matter of perspective.