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nica_hanejima
So recently I've had the worlds biggest crush on this guy but he found out... :/ .... N stopped talking to me... I'm shy but I talk to people n I'm really nice I'm not fat or ugly (sorry that's selfish but I do believe so) I don't... Grr Idk I've never been with anyone before but Idk wut to do I didn't do anything wrong... I think... Does anyone have advice?
rezikai
May 24, 12 at 1:22am
just try an be normal... which is hard for a shy person (i was / am as well) ... some dudes may be asses and try to take advantage of your feelings but if he's an ok guy he'll be ok being around you even if he knows you like him... hell learn his intests andry to be a frien if anything... that strat usually helps a guy take notice in either a romantic or platonic form... but either is better then having him shun you.
mehsomethingsomethingsomething
If anything, you may have made him a tad shy by catching him off guard but you did nothing wrong if he found out. If he didn't dislike you to begin with this is no reason to start. He just may be a bit more flaky than you realized. All you can do is give it time or move on, since he already knows, now the ball is in his court. I'm guessing you're quite young never having had a relationship before. If he knows, there ain't much else you can do.One bit of advice though, don't be clingy.Bet he's new to it all too...or more so than you think.Ah..."feelings".....I miss those...."feelings"...and I digress.
k3nsh1n4life
Honestly, the best thing you can do now is confront him about your feelings. If he didn't find out from you yourself telling him, then he really doesn't know and could be doubtful on the validity of your infatuation. Just tell him how you feel and ask for a straight answer back. It is probably a 10-15 second sentence in which you say, "Hey (insert name of crush here), I've had a crush on you for (insert how long crush has lasted unless its a creepy length, then just lie and say a month or something lol). I was wondering if you could consider going out with me." Guys are really dense. I am really dense. Unless you're at least this straightforward, you're feelings might not ever reach him. Make sure you make this confession in person, maintain eye contact the entire duration, don't stutter, say it with confidence, and don't be afraid of rejection. Its hard to say no to someone who can meet all the above criteria. The worse thing that will happen after that point is he says "I'm not interested in the slightest". If that happens, I'm sure you'll be hurt, but you'll be able to get over him at that point. If he can't respond with anything right at that moment, then just take it as a "no" and move on. He might come back later and respond to your feelings, but in my opinion, that decision is something that is made instantly. As cliche as this may sound, I believe your heart should always have the answer right away and if its unsure, then the person is probably not right for you.
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