Your a Virgin but he/she isnt.

Questions like these kind of bother me. People here just want to be accepted for their out of the social norm interests, kinks and obsessions, but at the same time I've seen some of those same people being some of the most judgemental people. Questions like these encourage the whole "better than thow" mentality. Whomever amongst you is without sin, cast the first stone. I think that more than fits and even more so since they were going to stone a whore. The past is the past for a reason and unless they continue to live in the past, why should those who are with fault, judge?

Urgh I had a whole message typed out and it got deleted XD but all in all this isn't about me its about this guy who's dating one of my best friends I've been talking to him for awhile about this and he's a virgin and she isn't . I keep on telling him that it doesnt matter because she wants to be with you and

He keeps on sayibg things like I can't stop picturing all of those other guys plowing her in my mind, if I wasn't a virgin before I met her I wouldn't care. And my friend like she has more of a crazy past than she let him know x.x so he wouldn't get upset.I mean she's crazy about him which is

Why I've been trying to help her out, she's never trusted a guy like this before after what happend to her x.x but for the past 3 weeks he's been going on about all this and she's even considering letting him take a break from their relationship so he can go experiment and get his wild side out of him. Oh and he's 19 and she's 21.

And she's crying about it. But not to jump to anything he didn't wanna go through with it because he's legit in love with her and only her.like at this party last week she tried to pair him up with someone He refuses and said he only wanted to be with her and would never cheat. So I'm stuck with this situation with these two the only thing I can say to her is leave him because the prob will never go away and the only thing I Can say to him is get over the fact your a virgin and she's been with other guys.

Your advice to her is really the only way to go. The guy needs to get over himself and find a way to deal with his insecurity, otherwise he will continue to sabotage every relationship he starts.

its a little weird i guess but nothing much you can do about it...someone got there first thats how life goes. to keep on dwelling on it seems a little dumb. its not like its their fault your a virgin and its not your fault they aren't one. but i guess i can see where he is coming from, she has more experience so she knows how things go and since he doesnt he might be a little worried about messing up. Do your research and pray dont mess up i guess

Totally irrelevant to me if the other person is a virgin or not, has no effect on my decision to be with them. Not something I usually ask someone about anyway.

Well, shouganai then, you can't do anything about it and it shouldn't be a deal breaker unless for some psychological reason you absolutely want nothing else than a virgin. His/her experience may intimidate you but it's the same with a lot of things. You feel uneasy at first and after a little while it doesn't bother you anymore.