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sex is alot of work imho

kichigai913
You had sex while your parents were home? Wait... You still live with your parents? Both of you?
yaasshat
Maybe, exercise more? Seriously, it could help...then again....anyone can have sex, it's what you're trying to do that may be the issue. Sadly, I've been cut off from sex for the time being, but it was never a chore for me. One, two.. six times a day, I w a s fine. I do understand getting bored of the same routine though, switch it up. Do you have to be tops or can she? Learn to truly be intimate and not focus so much on the act, but the person. Make your desire, your pleasure, to please them. For instance, I love eating a woman out, I love bringing her to climax first or slowly paying attention to her every breath as I caress her body.... I like it to mean something and be an experience. Edit: ConsiDer an apartment. I'd say not together....I'm stuck in a lease with my ex at the moment...yeah, not the best situation.
metaljester
Jun 04, 15 at 2:01pm
There are numerous factors that go into how driven you are for sexual intercourse, Which of course determine your want to perform sex, Some people simply don't find it as pleasurable as others. There are sexual orientations afterall that find it quite the opposite. Break it down for you, Sex ed and biology don't fail me now, Sexual orgasms are more intense the more oxytocin you have, also so is the drive one could say, Naturally people with less oxytocin are inclined to get less stimulated from it or not find it as pleasurable, Prolactin can be attributed to after the release, its what gives us the urge to do other stuff after sex, It has been shown that people with higher prolactin have a higher chance of focusing less on sexual intercourse. I wont elaborate over endorphins since that's common knowledge, Theres a few others as well that contribute to it, but more importantly Serotonin is the one that matters in my opinion since its a mood regulator that occurs in sex, also a natural anti depressant, I guess if anything that would be one of the major benefits of sex, if you remove the care for the pleasure it gives you. Overall though sex is not simply about pleasure from the chemical standpoint, it does relieve multiple common issues we don't normally think about, although understandable why one would not care for it much, due to orientations and other personal quirks. I do agree though sex should not be really a major goal that's a tad pushing it.
kichigai913
When I have sex, it may not be like hentai, but it IS like a porno
invisibal
Well I'm sure everyone would just be dying to know how exactly people have sex.
chibipizza
lollll.
metaljester
Jun 04, 15 at 2:37pm
Tied in a circular motion it appears, But yes it provides reasons why somebody may not have as much interest in sex, although there are many more,
yaasshat
I work warehouse work myself and believe me, that doesn't make you "fit". Really, you just sound unhappy. Sex should be enjoyable. Talk about these things with your partner.
lynxware
??????? If you didn't enjoy it and don't feel its worth it, you must have done something wrong..... And if you feel its too much work have her take the top.
clueliss
I do not know you that well, but is it possible that you may be asexual? If you're not asexual it is also possible that your sex drive is just really low. There are possible remedies for that (exercise, medication, etc) but it could just be within your personality. Nothing wrong with that. You just have to find someone that understands your circumstance or has a similar one. Yes, sex for men can be very hard and there is a heavy expectation on them to perform, but practicing on lengthening your stamina and getting to know the girl and what turns her on will help. My partner did have to work hard to get me off when we first started having sex, and a lot of the time he just was not able to (which is not entirely his fault, it is partly due to being open and vulnerable to your partner). But as we've become more comfortable and more connected with each other my orgasms have come more easily (TMI?) I have a very high sex drive and have had casual sex before and enjoyed it, but the best sex is with someone you care about. The sex becomes better over time and the fatigue is worth it because the connection feels so good. If you are not asexual and if you don't believe it is possible you just have a low sex drive, then it is also possible that you and your partner just need time to grow together and build a connection. Just my thoughts. Edit: I re-read your first post and the biggest thing that's glaring at me is that you had too high expectations. You let anime(hentai?) and porn shape how sex is supposed to look and feel when real sex is nothing like that. You are right, your lips will get dry. You may get a cramp. You may hurt your partner accidentally. It may be too hot in the room or too cold. You will get tired and will need to switch to a less exerting position. But that's all apart of sex. It's all normal. Sex isn't the perfect thing that they show on TV and it's not supposed to be. I do have an issue with that, because so many young people go into relationships expecting certain things from sex when it just isn't realistic. Not every guy can last for 40 minutes and rarely can guys cum and then go back at it 1 minute later (*cough cough hentai cough cough*). Not all girls are going to make ahegao faces or be able to do positions that require great flexibility. I think for in the future, cast porn and hentai out of your mind. Do not think about the expectations that you've had. Instead, just think about how much you like your partner. Think about how pretty her lips are and how cute she is, how she makes you feel good. Focus on how pleasurable it feels to be with her intimately. And if you get tired, take a break! Change positions! Do more foreplay! Just enjoy being with her.
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