I want the kind of love you only see in anime

Im about to be 22 this year, but all my friends say I should be 28. I act so much older than I am at times and I know exactly what I want when it comes to a relationship. Unfortunately the guys I've been with recently either have no idea what they want out of life, or they're too busy acting like little boys to notice a real woman standing in front of them. Tell me, are there any guys out there who actually want the real thing? Or should I stop wasting my time?

There are I can honestly say that. However; it isn't easy in today's world to tell them apart from posers. I my self have always wanted something serious. I am 25 now and I stayed single up until recently. The problem is most people that think that way are shy my self included. I notice complementing people is the hardest skill and the only thing that makes people come out of their shell. Once that happens relationships and couples are formed. Everyone out their wants to feel wanted by someone else. So if you want someone you have to show them how much. Sure you risk getting shut down but that's life is like Russian roulette. You get back up and move on.

Endlessknight makes such a great point. Meeting someone new and getting along with them starts with being brave enough to show your gratefulness to a total stranger! That's probably the first and hardest step for anyone. Since we're in an otaku singles forum, I'm going to align what I write next with the subject line of this thread. Once you've gotten through the initial icebreaker and are well into getting acquainted with an otaku...the only way to move forward is to ACTively be engaged and also take risks. First off, if both parties are in that potential dancin' around phase and chances exist for things to progress, then somebody's gotta do something about it. Hopefully, it's a mutual thing with both parties getting involved but one of you is always going to be a little slower on the take. Plus, it changes. Everybody is different and will react to different circumstances, and take different amounts of time to settle down. From personal experience, about 50% of the time people get burned out and take themselves out of the process early on. The same rules apply inside these forums, even though we have a few advantages available to us in this arena. Try not to think too hard about doing the best you can, instead focus on having fun with a side of social lite while you're at it! If you're serious about being in it for the long haul, then I think the first thing you gotta do is settle in for the long haul!

I agree to agree with fullmetallove and not just cause we become friends. But one point, forget about the long haul. You can't start anything in that mind set. Start by having fun and getting to know someone after a while of hitting it off let's say a couple of months then see about making plans with the person. People freak out and feel like they are being tied down. Instead they rather want to get to the point where they wouldn mind settling with the person on their own terms. Leaving that kind of thinking untill you are together wlll make getting things started easier. That's the kind of thing that's always messed me up. Too impatient. XP I should know better by now. lol

lol u dont want a romance like in anime XD anime romances r always so unstable and conflicts XD but i do understand what u mean and i think wer all looking for that. just remember out of the 6.2 billion ppl on earth and going up there haaaaaaasss to be someone out there thatll give u what u want. its not even hope its a numbers thing XP