The " Nice guy" and "Friendzone"

I've had a few of these guys who think I "friend zoned" them It's really hard actually because I really try to be nice and polite to every one and they take that as an "oh yeah she likes me" and honestly I think it's because most of the time they are completely ignored or just down right bullied by other females. And I want to be nice but when they get really pushy or clingy it can get annoying.

Quote: "So when she goes for a guy who's hurt her, or he feels doesn't treat her right, it confuses him and he's hurt. " It's really simple: the first guy wasn't interesting, funny, or good looking. Some people think that being incredibly nice is enough to get friends, but it doesn't work on guys nor girls. You have to provide something they can't get anywhere else. What these guys should do is work on themselves - get funnier, take up awesome hobbies (take a girl skiing or to a shooting range mwahaha), etc. When someone comes along and gets the girl first, it's because they made the right move at the right time and had the right combination of interesting personality traits. Nobody wants to be with a jerk, most of these guys are actually just more interesting or more funny (or more rich, but hey that happens).

Sephiroth is absolutely right. I would like to add that those who feel they are "friend zoned" are actually selfish in that they are only caring about what they wanted instead. If you truly cared about their happiness then you wouldn't even think "friend zoned" when they hook up with someone else. It's natural to be a little hurt and jealous, but if you are fixated on that then that is a valid reason they should not want to date you.

I just think that everyone should be nice/kind and compassionate cause it's well, the nice thing to do. Even if it isn't someone your crushing on. And if it is and the person rejects you then be nice still cause NOBODY OWES YOU A DAMN THING. Just be nice and kind for the sake of being nice with NO OTHER MOTIVES. Unless someone hurts you, if someone hurt you in anyway then you don't have to treat them with kindness.

i think i saw a post the other day online where someone said "oh that sucks you got friendzoned, i got fuckzoned." and it really hit me. there are a lot of times where girls legitimately want to be friends with the opposite gender and they think things are going great, then next thing you know they're throwing a hissy fit about how you won't date them and everything they've done so far was soooo deserving. And it's like, why can't you just be a decent person without expecting something in return? You miss out on such a great opportunity to be friends with someone just because you wanted to date/fuck them.

Exactly! It's really gross! 0: It's very one-sided, selfish and MANIPULATIVE I:

There's these things called compatibility and attraction. People often forget about these and yell "hurr durr muh friendzone" He/She just doesn't like you.