I really dont know how to talk to a guy.

It like every guy that I try to become friends with thinks I'm hitting on them. I want a slow relationship and I wouldn't mind being long distant but I'm trying to get to that friend level before getting on a "romantic" level. Any tips?

My best advice would be to just put yourself out there. Join clubs and do things that interest you. That way you can meet guys that not only have the same interest as you, but they won't think your hitting on them. They'll think your a girl who has the same interests as them. It'll be easier to make conversation and become friends.

Well I did join an anime club down here but me being the only female they all thought I wanted to date them. But I am going to try to join more clubs and see where that takes me.

That is a kind of a problem in nerd culture, guys tend to outnumber girls, so a lot of guys tend to see every nerdy girl as a rare opportunity.and think that they have to make a move fast in order to have a shot. Some people also just have very open personalities that people do not feel awkward approaching which also makes them more prime for targeting. Unfortunately I have no real suggestions on how to prevent this situation. You just have to keep letting people know that you want to take it slow.

Personally I have a really hard time differentiating between girls being friendly and girls being flirty. Initially i thought it was because of in-experience but over the years I've come to learn that I just dont know how to filter the signals females send. More often than not I think a girl likes me when she is actually hitting on my friend... Then again sometimes I think a girl is really into my friend only to be surprised as she starts being cuddly when the wee hours draw near, leaving me puzzled as to wether im backstabbing my bro.

Im extremely dense (had girls flirt and I didn't even know it,ect )so I dont have much to give maybe send out "just friends vibes" somehow

haha im with you Zen. Just be honest with the guy and there will be no misunderstandings. Some of use aren't the most perceptive in the world.

agreed with Zen and iamtheredsev, some guys are pretty dense, we're not a particularly perceptive species, and generally we won't notice. its usually otaku's or smart people that have trouble in this department, since others who obviously didn't pass highschool maths or english certainly don't seem to have a problem picking up.

Honesty and start off with generic subjects to talk about something that cannot be related to anything romantic hope this helps:)