I'm pretty if I say so ! (sorry it's long)

So recently one of my best friends has been called arrogant for saying she's attractive, quote "I'm so pretty" on a picture she posted of herself Now she gets these kinds of comments a lot because she compliments her self every now and then, things like: "You wear make up you're not actually pretty" "So self absorbed" "You're cute at best" Now these don't bother her because she has great self confidence but they bother me because these are usually other girls on a site that's usually about supporting others. You know they'll post the quotes "everyone is beautiful" And it seems that should come with and asterisks *only people I think it's okay for them to say I seem to see this a lot. Pretty , beautiful and cute girls that have confidence to compliment themselves get torn down as "bitches, sluts or self absorb" I'm tired of it it's like "Yes every one is beautiful but; you can't say that especially if you're skinny, wear make up, are actually or semi attractive, doesn't think the way I think or I don't like the way they dress. So everyone have confidence, except you." It's such a shame ! Some girls have to work a lot on just liking themselves when we're put under so much pressure to look attractive, it takes courage to do a simple thing as post a picture. We should actually be supporting and be happy for one another girl or boy, instead of just pretending. Just sayin'.

Nice post. I really don't have much to add here since you hit the hammer on the head in the right spots. :)

Yeah, the people who make those comments are being assholes. So long as the person doesn't insult or tear down others, I'm always glad to see people have that sort of confidence and security in themselves.

It's basically them reacting to what they see as arrogance, Not saying I agree, But that's why they do it. Look at people's reactions, An average or above average looking girl says that she isn't pretty. Then most of the bandwagoners say that's she very pretty. On the opposite side, If a very good looking girl says she's pretty, They will say the opposite and try to find petty reasons to disagree. It's called argumentative and the bandwagoning trait so many have. Also many have insecurities that they don't like to think about, in turn making them have envy to those who don't have the same type of problem. So let's see, Envy, Argumentative, Bandwagoning and insecurities, Is all why they do it. Is it right? No, Is it going to stop anytime soon? Also no, Humans are envious creatures all the time, Those of us who aren't just gotta deal with it.

Hmmm...Nope. It's a bit narcissistic. Just as one should never think themselves to be ugly, one does not need to announce that they fawn over themselves. There's a little thing called humility. Now, I'm not getting on anyone for believeing in their self worth or attractiveness, but to just announce it is to try and call attention to ones self no matter how you look at it. Dress your best, wearing make up or just doing your best to look good is not the issue. I believe we all have beaut, but I'm not vain enough to just blurt it out about myself. The most beautiful of people are those who beautify those around them. Sooo... Now it's hard being beautiful too?...Come on. What's next? People complain about the sillyest things...

I do find that since I have mild insecurities about my looks that I tend to go for girls that are not universally considered attractive or consider themselves particularly attractive. With the general logic being that any particularly attractive girl who knows that they are attractive can have any guy she wants so why would she chose me? But I also know that's flawed logic based on my own insecurities.

I'd say that's something closer to narcissistic behavior than being arrogant, but even then just to a mild degree from the sounds of it. Nothing wrong with having some self confidence.