Best way to meet/befriend/date super shy otaku girls?

Honestly it helps if the guy is the one who is straightforward/ flirty. , also buy her MERCH and food and she will love you forever.

I'm not a girl or a very shy person, but I'm going to go on a whim and give you a guess anyways! I feel like if you're somewhat shy back, but brave enough to make the first moves, that'll be a good start (p.s. I'm completely going off a shoujo manga here). I feel like shier people feel more pressure around outgoing people (again, just my guess) so being straight forward and doing the japanese thing where you pin them to the wall and smile would be unideal. Also, the shy quiet types (just looking at my experience from Anime Expos) are usually the ones that are into yaoi/boy's love, so maybe uhh... go gay??? Okay, don't follow that last one, that was bad, but I'm not deleting it.

@alanzuenduong Shoujo manga is a good idea. I know many shy girls do like shoujo manga/anime, so they probably do like the idea of a guy walking up to and talking to them first. The overly assertive stuff, however, should not be followed. Do NOT pin her to a wall, corner her, or touch her. That can scream "RAPE" to her mind, especially if she isn't familiar with you or doesn't know if she likes you. It's a fantasy to be pinned to a wall by someone who's super sexy and who you like/have a crush on, but in real life, it's more than likely going to get you arrested or accused of harassment if she's not comfortable with you. Yaoi is popular with girls shy or not, but not all shy girls even know it exists and might feel embarassed by its' intimate nature. I didn't know about it in school, and only found out about it when I was about 17 and a friend showed it to me. I have a friend who is even shyer than me, and shyer than Tomoko, and she is very... well innocent. Another friend and I once were playing around making 3D dicks, and when she walked in, she kinda freaked out and got scared, so we had to delete the crude stuff. She loves shoujo manga, though, and even draws her own from scratch with those special manga pens and stuff. I honestly cannot see her in a romantic relationship, however... She has a very anti-intimacy feel to her, like she won't touch you even if you're rclose friends. Actually I'm more worried for her lately since she's been showing strong signs of OCD that she didn't have before(extremely excessive hand-washing, she can't go a minute without going to wash them), but I felt helpless since she wouldn't confide with me and deny anything is wrong. I also noticed she'd start whispering to herself randomly(in public places), like gibberish... Normally she doesn't talk and we'll write to each other on paper or on our phones even though we're right in front of each other irl, kind of like IMs. It's a strange kind of friendship, but it's neat how you can find someone who accepts your method of communication. So, if she is like how I used to be, or how my friend is, she might even prefer just writing/typing instead of talking.

Yeah you can not corner a shy person as they will shut down and/or flee. I would speak very clear about intentions and motivations so there was no room for confusion. Leave the ball in their court without putting them on the spot in public. Discretion and patience I think is key with a very shy person. Having said that if you like them you can not wait forever for an answer. @Kohagura - I think you friend has a bigger issue than being extremely shy or OCD. There is high chance she has been abused or is developing a serious mental condition based on what you describe of her behaviors. Not an easy situation, as you said she likely will not talk about problems and may withdraw more. Keep a keen eye on your friend.

@DarkuSchneider I know her mom is nice, but I can tell her dad is impatient with her, and there was one time where he yelled at her for not doing the dishes when I visited... It seems like a normal thing for him to be pushy to her, and impatiently say something like, "Come on! *sigh*" @_@ It was scary because he has such a loud assertive voice and is like opposite to her. Her sister is also opposite to her and is extremely talkative/loud. I honestly think she needs professional therapy, but then we can't force her if she doesn't want to, and she denies anything wrong... there's just nothing I can do for someone who denies it. Also, yes the timing and place is important too. I feel that many shy people are like "dandere", where they are not as shy when they are in a quiet place with just one person who they feel is a good listener, and they can talk more freely, knowing they aren't interrupting a group's chat or being talked over. ...That sounds oddly like a therapist. XD

@Kohagura - Sounds like all you can do for now is remind your friend they have value as a person and be supportive. Use healthy ego boosters by focusing on their merits instead of sounding patronizing by saying they can overcome anything in the world. They have to believe in themselves before they believe they can take on outside forces. Do not prod and poke but encourage them to be open with their feelings knowing they will not be judged. My step father was not physically abusive but he was 6'4" intimidating and loud and always negative worded everything. It is difficult for people but for children it is worse when you are told endlessly you are no good or will always fail. The mind will sometimes shift to believe it to save itself from the stress and subconsciously submit to it. This drives some mad as all people want to be who they were meant to be and be free. It can be deprogrammed if care is taken.