Both, I feel cuddles are a great way to bond and I feel it's important to be on the same page sexually. If I had a season of my favorite anime(s) for every time a relationship ended because we didn't like the same things in bed, I'd be watching digimon a lot more.
I get the cuddles,but I'd settle for sex... It's funny how many say they like to cuddle. Be with someone who constantly wants to cuddle and it loses it's appel. Same goes for sex, there has to be a balance and it has to be done for the right reasons. It's like saying "I love you" all the time...
In my case it's option 2!