Stops before it becomes real

So I'll ask this: Meeting someone at a like-minded area (well, Otakon) that you instantly get along with is all good, right? You keep in contact for the whole year through texts and get to know alot about the other person. Next year and make that trip to Baltimore again. Finally meet up and then you get the drive to express how you feel. After hearing that she rejects you, reason being "Because I felt safe when it was just on the phone." That does alot to morale after something that's no one elses for that long blows up in your face like that. Still friends and all but the texts from before became from personal every day to multiple to every other week with no reply. Is this even salvagable for anything or should I just make it an afterthought in my life? I don't really ask alot of questions here but sometimes I'm curious about opinions and other people's experiences that are kinda similar.

multiple every other week: Sends out little pictures of her to multiple people at once. (Seemed to be) used to be one of the first to recieve them before she'd post them to her FB. But yeah, I know I'm not getting any hopes up anymore for any prolonged personal texts like we used to last year but if something lasts like that for more than 3 months constant (time limit I give any kind of socializing to see if it's worth anything more than mindless banter) I'd consider a good chunk of my life devoted to another person's attention. And yeah I do consider just texts and pics (ones sent that were not FB fodder and specific to me) like that to heart if it's more than random talk.

I went thru the exact same thing after a break-up. Honestly your wasting your time. Don't spend too much time that could be used for something else. Like school, hobbies, or finding friends and other people. Don't let it get to you. It happens to everyone.

Yeah dude, let the girl come to you, and just mind your own business by doing other things like socializing with other people.

never said that I didn't socialize with other people, I did say though that if I do socialize with someone that wasn't pointless chatter though I usually give my time towards that. I know things are eventual (but the searching and waiting is the part that sucks) but going around and meeting new people are part of it, which is going on right now. But you know, easier said than done. Finding a match isn't done as easily as any anime will show you, but it'd be nice to find like-minded matches.

I was just telling you what you should do in the mean time, I wasn't trying to give off an expression that you don't socialize. Anyway yeah, stuff like this takes time.

I always say this to people who are looking for love and wonder why they only get heart aches and nothing truly committing and meaningful. Love is something that comes to you, You don't go looking for it. Your best try at not getting hurt by meaningless relationships is simply to be patient and wait until it comes to you. You cannot rush the work of true love. If what your looking for is simply a fling or a relationship where it is just for the COMPANY then you can throw yourself to as many dating sites as you want but if your looking for true loyal commitful love, That is something that you can't rush happening. You'll find that if you stop looking so desperately and hard for ' Love ' that it will come to you naturally. Things come to you when you stop looking for them. Maybe who knows, Because your looking for love so desperately and getting into meaningless relationships you might be preventing the actual person your heart is looking for from meeting you. Who knows?