The 4th Ed-Boy

Unfortunately every single dating site/app is statistically cursed from the get-go unless you are extremely above average looking and/or have extremely above average finances and this goes for both men and women (I believe the statistic is something like 80% of users are competing for the top 20% of the dating pool of the opposite gender) Obviously people get lucky, and how bad the odds are goes down the more active people there are on a given app but in general looking for positive results is a fools errand. Your best bet is to cast as wide a net as possible (i.e. just use multiple apps/sites when you can) and put yourself out there. If you have a free minute, go participate in some random thread and you never know right? Otherwise just keep your expectations realistic and consider investing in some monk robes

Probably a combination of: -Me simply not knowing how to meet new people irl, or when I do I have zero idea how to go beyond just small-talk and actually ask someone out without coming off as weird, or too strong, or misreading signals, or idek I have untreated ADHD which probably doesn't help this aspect lol -the fact that I enjoy crossdressing/crossplay and am open and honest about this to most people and I'm fairly certain it is a big turn-off for many women. -Choosing to save myself for marriage, and in turn expecting either the same from a significant other or at least a very low amount of previous partners and still being cool with a sexless relationship till marriage (I imagine this is the big one) -I am very particular about who I consider dating because my end-goal is marriage, life-long companionship, and starting a family and I cannot imagine not putting a lot of thought into choices like this At least I have the luxury of having my issues be mostly self-imposed I guess *shrugs*