mrkingofspades

Let's cut a deal, you grill up manok and liempo. I'll do pork chops, steaks, and burgers. Fuck it we'll even throw in a grilled cheese. Let's also agree to leave out the Balut :O

There are a lot of things in the past that should've never been the way they were. And I really appreciate the more realistic approach you're bringing to the table on the subject. I do also want to mention, however, that a lot of the feminist movement focuses on pushing for privilege's instead of equality/responsibility. These are the movements I don't agree with. An assumption from reading your responses in this thread: I don't think you do either, but I might be wrong. Some of these movements have been mentioned, such as divorce and how it heavily favors women. But it's also the notion of wanting every right a man has (which I agree with), but also having the privledge of not being drafted to war. The movements that push for stronger woman, but ridicule and belittle men. The movements that fight solely for woman's privledge that sacrifice men's health, etc. On the topic overall and not just in reply to @verucassault - Let's be honest, most men are average (quite obvious); we haven't won the genetic lottery. Only the top 1 to 5 to 10% (depending on sources) of men are having substantial success and most of it has to do with physical appearance or wealth. Not many men are born into wealth, or receive a good enough education financially (our education system is another major issue), which again has to do with genetic lottery. A big problem that I've observed is that social media, online dating, and the internet in general has changed the dynamic between men and women. Our culture has shifted heavily away from social interaction from in-person meetings, and this is even developed in myself. With online dating, the women can pick and choose the best of the best in an area (the genetic lottery winners). We've seen this already shown with stats in a few of the above posts. Hell, I'm an average looking guy in fairly decent shape and have had zero success in online dating. I don't mean it to sound rude, but I've also swiped right on women that I don't find as attractive, or have views, or things on their profiles/pictures I don't like (lowering my standards essentially) and struggle to get a match. This brings me to a feeling/theory/idea that a lot of women are holding such high/unrealistic standards for men, where average is not even good enough anymore. Now, I'm not saying I'm great or anything, hell there are times where I question if I'm actually even as average as I think I am. But I see a lot of guys like me struggle, so I'm not only saying this from my experience. Men are being held to such high standards now, it's hard for a lot of us without a leg up in the race to even keep pace. Generally I think online dating, radical feminist movements, politics (both sides), and other movements are contributing to this idea of men just generally being blamed for a lot of things that have gone wrong. And certainly, men in power have fucked things up. Greedy, power hungry men, abusers, rapists, whomever else, these guys get the headlines. They're the men you hear about. It's painted an awful picture for your average man. This too, I believe attributes to a lot of the hardships average dudes are having to face right now. Someone brought up the MeToo movement, and I think it's more than just a workplace issue. Overall, I think the idea of being thought of as a creep, or taking something too far, or not feeling comfortable expressing your desires as a man has hampered communication for a lot of men. Some of the biggest attributing factors to the anxiety I feel when trying to make friends or show interest in a woman is the idea that all it takes is for her to think I'm creepy, or say something and have it come off the wrong way, and suddenly I'm some sex pest. A lot of times, I just don't even try because I have to weigh the options of if it's even worth it. Most of the time I feel nervous, in the pit of my stomach nervous, even thinking about approaching a woman I'm attractive to. Who knows how I can come off in my language verbally/body all because I'm nervous as shit. I think this has attributed to a lot of approach anxiety, so a lot of men aren't even doing it, and that's totally fair. I know it's really been one of the biggest issues for why I'm mostly socially inept, or scared to express myself because 1) I've got little to know practice. 2) It's hard to not come across as creepy, weird when you're nervous. 3) A lot of mixed signals of woman saying they do/don't like being approached. I also want to harp back on social media and the internet, specifically click-bait and viral culture. This has a major effect on communication, is what I've come to realize. I see it a lot on dating sites, men having to come up with some grand opening line or they're not even receiving replies. It's funny because almost every girl I've matched with on Bumble say "Hey there" or something similar. But there's this notion in communication now, and as a man I can say I notice it especially, where you have to say the perfect thing/line. I think even regular, everyday communication is suffering because of this. If you're not keeping someone's attention with hot takes, impressive, over-the-top banter, why would you keep or earn anyone's attention? I think this is especially hard for men who can't fall back on looking like a gigachad. If you can't look like a gigachad, and can't hold my attention with words? What can you do for me? This is the vibe I get from a lot of people in my area. I think these are some of the major issues that are attributing to most men's dating experiences right now.

Roses are red, Violets are blue I just got off work and work again at 8AM. Shit.

Roses are red, Violets are blue I've got nothing good to offer you :'(