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It's a pretty cool site. Nice being somewhere with so many like minded people. Well at least as far as anime goes, haha. How about you?

Hey, how're you doing? Haven't spoken to you in a while. Happiness will always be a tricky thing. If I were to die today, I'd say I'd die a happy man, but that doesn't mean I've lived my entire life and have nothing left to live for. It would be a sad occasion for some of the people who care about me, but I feel like in general I'm a completely happy human being ^^

I can relate a lot to your info section. I'm socially awkward as well. Not as bad as I used to be but still. I'm just not good at talking to strangers face to face. lol.

That's exactly what I was going on about earlier: I can tell you how it works, but you probably won't be able to implement it. It's difficult for many people and to be honest, I don't know how I've achieved it. It's got something to do with an almost spiritual experience I had once, which fits with the term enlightenment. Really strange, because I wasn't pursuing it at all. I've just been lucky, I reckon

The second part is acceptence, which is an extremely broad one. This one's also important for relationships. Nobody's perfect, so you need to accept that some things can't be changed. If this makes you incapable of loving that person, you're better off telling the person sooner than later, but people tend to lie to themselves or think that's something that will gradually change when people love another enough. Sad fact: core principles, like morals and values do not change that much. So, if you want children and your partner doesn't, accept that or move on. It's really harsh, but it will spare you from unhappy anxious moments for a long time while you're trying to convince them of something they don't want. Acceptence also counts for the following: accept peoples intentions for their actions. Only a few people in your life will actively be trying to make your day suck. For others, this isn't intended. When somebody hurts you (which has often to do with intention), think of reasons why they might do that. Often you'll find that they chose themselves above you (which is very understandable) or they didn't know the severity of the situation and the harm it did to you. Therefore, it is hard to be angry with them, because you know they didn't mean to harm you and if they found out they had harmed you, they'd even be sad or feel guilty. (Removing anger in your life leads to more possibilities for happiness)