High Standards

Mine I consider to be fairly reasonable considering who I am myself. A christian would probably hate the fact I love to mock the myth worshippers in today's society, I don't want someone who doesn't take care of herself, because I do my best with my life style and I expect the same. I do realize nobody's perfect, but some standards for me aren't going to be negotiable. For instance the chances of me dating someone younger than me are pretty low, I would prefer someone who acts more like me, and i apparently act mature for my age. Basically it comes down to this, that person has to have enough things I like to outweigh the potential of finding someone else more compatible.

are you sure YOU'RE not the one with the high standards? i'm a bit curious as to which girls you think were asking too much.

Do I have high standards?.. I don't really have any standards atall.. I just want the person I fall in love with to be truthful to me. To appreciate me for not looking like a supermodel, and being a person I can talk to about anime\videogames.. ^^ I guess the only standard I have the the person, is for it to be a male.. ^^

hmm now that I think about it do I have high standards...I don't think so. I agree with Monja I want someone who love me for me no matter what I look like or what I do.

I would like to think I don't have high standards. I'd just like a sweet, down to earth, fun girl who enjoys games and anime as much as I do.

looks, personality, intelligence... pick two I think people that have extremely high standards are those that are inexperienced. It's natural to want your partner to be perfect, but at the same time they probably don't exist. After dating a few people you learn what's more important to you and accept imperfection as the human condition.

I have high standards, but in all honesty, I wouldn't be true to myself if I didn't. If I settled for somebody who wasn't the man I wanted, neither he nor I would be very happy in the end. It would be absolutely unfair. I try to keep my standards realistic, but I also keep them at an altitude that filters out a lot of otherwise very nice guys. I suppose it's because most girls have had bad experiences with guys and they want to avoid those experiences by setting up parameters to guard from that. For example, my first real crush was a childhood friend who was really into martial arts. He promised me he'd stand by me if I ever became the target of gossip, but then turned on me the moment gossip actually started happening. I tried to tell him the truth, but he wouldn't listen and believed the very girl who had lied about me because she cried and I didn't. I became the one in the wrong, the source of the problem, because she appealed to his sense of pride and the idea that women are weak and never cry crocodile tears. Therefore, my parameters today filter a guy like that right out. Are all guys like that? No, of course not. There could be the annoying, grabbing, touching, overly protective one that thinks a girl is incompetent and needs his protection. There's the guy that could really like a girl, but is too intimidated by her personality to actually speak up about it. There's the guy who hovers over a girl, thinking he has the right to tell her what to do and how to act around other men to the point of sheer insanity. There's also the guy who thinks that it's funny to joke about killing or hurting the very things his date finds absolutely adorable, just for laughs and to see her reaction. The bar for a woman's love interest may be raised pretty high at times, but remember, the bar could be raised for very good reasons.

So, NER, you basically are saying that standards are there for a reason? I'm glad we have a similar consensus, I don't want to waste a moment of my life with an unsuitable partner just for the hell of it Thus, I remain alone, much like the the protagonist of "The Town With No People" looking for "the one just for me". I'm not expecting true love my first time, but I want every relationship fulfilling, is that too much to ask?

I concur absolutely. I think of relationships in the long term, so just to date a guy for the hell of it would be wasting my time and his money. That's not considerate toward either person.