Heart Bweak?

You sound like Taio Cruz Blazin. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_SI2EDM6Lo for reference.

Mainly the dumpee but there have been times I have been the dumper. Breakups are never really easy and depending on how long the relationship has been, sometimes you get over it easily, sometimes not.

iv never offisially broken up before (exept for my last ex which was affew times) im usually too afraid of confrintation to break it off....thats actually kinda how i got my first bfs, just didnt wanna sayy no to them, im no good at rejection Q_Q

I'll be the first to admit I've been "friend-zoned" several times by women. If you're not interested in a guy, it is what it is. You can't put a gun to someone's head and genuinely make them like you. It's a defense mechanism for guys to stop being around girls they're interested in that have rejected them. It doesn't necessarily mean the only reason they've been around you is to try and get into your pants. It's more or less just logic kicking in. "Why should I continue to invest time into pursuing a relationship with someone who is clearly not interested in me?" Sex is a natural progression of a relationship, and there are a lot of guys who want that as well as the emotional and support aspects that come with a relationship. Length of the friendship can also have a lot to do with it. If you've been friends with the person for years, then the guy shouldn't necessarily stop being friends with you because you rejected him, but if you have only known the guy for a short time, then it shouldn't be as overly surprising if he doesn't stick around. If he's petty enough to vent his frustration out in public over being rejected, then you were right in rejecting that person in the first place because they don't have the emotional maturity imo to handle a relationship at the moment. "Nice Guy syndrome" usually is just an excuse for other underlying issues as to why someone gets rejected a lot. It can be social, physical, personality, or emotional issues as to why a person can't find a steady relationship or an amalgamation of those issues as well and until those are worked on, there's a pretty good chance they'll continue to have relationship issues.

im mostly the one getting dumped :p but thats becuase i dont go in a relationship half heartedly i dont start things i cant finish but in a breakup i dont realy gewt bothered that much when you break up whit me i always ask are you sure the moment you say yes your just another girl to me because when you said yes to the break up you basicaly told me you dont care about the effort both of us put in the relationship so i find it disrespectful and i dont realy wish to stay with a person that does not want to be with me so i pretty much get over the breakup the same day i broke up sounds a bit heartless but it realy isnt that ruff im still friends with all my exgirlfriends

My current boyfriend dumped me for a short time awhile back. I was devastated and it was probably the only time I've ever been so messed up over somebody. I used to have major issues with depression (i.e. sleeping roughly 15 hours a day and binge eating), and I was terrified of relapsing back into that cycle. So instead I stayed awake for over 110 hours (I finally passed out), I rarely ate, took up serious bicycling, and lost over 20 pounds in a week and a half. But I got over it (sleep and food helped), and a couple weeks later, we got back together. It's a little surreal in my mind, but I'm just happy it's over. Evidently I don't take break ups very well. I usually don't have too hard of a time dumping people because I've already mentally and emotionally distanced myself from them. My last relationship was hard though, because he was pretty good at emotional abuse, so distancing myself was fairly painful since he already had a tight hold on me. I think I would have had a break down if it weren't for my current boyfriend coming in to save the day. 12 minutes or 12 years...it's always hard. A break up severs a connection, a bond. It's okay to be hurt by these sorts of things, but someday you have to pick yourself back up. Give it time, right?

Woah okay. Mop, maybe you should stay single for awhile and give yourself time to mend the relationship between you and yourself. If you don't love yourself there ain't no WAY you're gonna be able to love someone else. I know that saying is trite but it's so true! You think being back with your guy is going to make everything better but eventually you guys are gonna break up again just don't beat yourself up about it.