Trying to solve the mystery of why there are so few women looking for dates

@thesailingteacup Just be careful with that. Many of the dom types I've seen online can be real jerks who just like to mistreat or worse abuse women. Idk you, but you seem nice enough so I wouldn't want to see anything bad happen to you so be careful. One thought: you could always try to take one of the guys you meet around here and corrupt him enough to be what you want, so that way you can be happy with someone who isn't gonna take things too far. Good luck and stay safe!

@thesailingteacup Can confirm. I only got a couple dm's before Arc and I started talking.

Sounds like that girl had petty, shallow views Frankie. I desire an independent man. One who helps pay the bills if rooming with another, or has his own place and doesn't throw money away with no care whatsoever, also has no qualms about give and take relationship.

@kameiya If you could save money living with your parents though, and have a good relationship with your parents, wouldn't it be throwing money away with no care to get your own place? Long term, in saving that money when you don't have to spend it, it can be allocated to investments. You also have to consider housing/rent prices going higher and higher. See, right now I am in a situation where I save a ton of money living at home and working full time and going to school, and am being able to invest, save money for buying property in the future, and putting money towards building a business. If I had to pay rent I'd be living paycheck to paycheck and not being independent financially. I'm asking because I'm curious if men in this situation are ruled out by a lot of women just because they aren't being looked at as independent.

@kameiya That's what's called a "healthy relationship" lol.

Teacup explained it well. I had a relationship with a guy who made every excuse to not be independent and find a way to leech off of his parents. I found out after that messed up relationship that I want a guy who is already independent. One who is already on his own or helping with bills with his roomie. I have no desire to date another guy who lives with someone else and no desire to ween off his providers.

@thesailingteacup That's fair, although I think I'd like to take over this house from my parents at some point being that I love living here in the mountains. But I definitely do have goals, even if they seem like they're all long term goals. It's just been made much easier because I have the available funds to open more doors because I'm not having to pay a shit ton on rent/mortgage. I'd also say I'm extremely independent, however, despite me not being exactly on my own. I'll put it this way - I understand the advantages I have been given and I'm doing everything I can to use them to better myself for the future. I'd be a fool if I didn't. I've given my life choices a lot of thought, and have used to cards I've been dealt to play my hand. I thought about leaving this house multiple times and getting my own place, or with a roommate, but it makes little sense financially for me. If I were to move out, I'd be sacrificing all the financial freedom I have right now, and putting it into the hands of a real estate investor. With the cards I've been given, I can take advantage of it instead and work on building the finances to become the real estate investor instead. Sure, it's been difficult, and maybe a little embarrassing to tell a woman, hey I live with my parents still. But hey, it's not like I'm that focused on dating or have noticed me catching that much attention (if any at all) from women anyways, so whatever. With embarrassment being the only downside of this decision, it's been a no-brainer.