Who hates or loves being single.

Being single is honestly the greatest though. Yeah maybe having a gf would be nice. But to me there are alot of cons to the dating scene. Trying to find that one strand of hay in a needlestack, its tedious. The odds are stacked against you imo. You are more likely to get hurt by someone you are dating than you are to find a life long connection. These days being married 20 years means nothing. You can still get divorced or cheated on. To go that long with someone who will end it in a split second is big. Having kids is even worse because if you guys separate then the kids are now stuck between 2 families. Unless ofc the one parent doesnt care about the child and gives you full custody and makes no attempt to fight for the child then odds are they will be torn between 2 families.

I still must improve myself slowly, no matter how often others either say I'm fine or not. Because why be normal when there is no normal? I avoid local women because if my preferences are more important for myself, then why be like most average local people? I'm too complicated for most women to understand me. Even if they (including my family) do understand me, then they might be fooled on some parts, because people look at things as different as my mother saying, "It's red!", while my big sister saying, "No it's yellow!" Most women like movies, Disney, vocal music, Chick-Fil-A, SnapChat, Instagram, StarBucks, and whatever trends while being narcissistic. They sound as dumb as like asking them... Me: "Do you like men with facial hair or no facial hair?" Local Woman: "Facial hair!" Me: "Why?" Local Woman: "idk lol ¯\_(ツ)_/¯" But not many of them care for nor properly understand me, because I prefer expensive healthy foods, VGM/Techno/Vocaloid/Japanese Music, spicy foods over bland foods, detailed talk over small talk, honesty over humor, be introverted more than extroverted, study Japanese more than other foreign languages, coffee (especially black) over energy drinks, coconut water over sports drinks, prefer being clean and free from alcohol/dipping/smoking/drugs/vaping/pharmaceuticals/etc., etc., etc.

I’d say I despise being overshadowed by my siblings more than hating being single. I’ve worked hard all my life and even graduated college. Yet my little brother is already residing two little girls, my sister has her son on the way to being born, and my non binary sibling already had their boyfriend that they want to transition with. And here I am working a factory job that came late in my life and have yet to find the right person. Many say never compare yourself to others, but I can’t help but to feel inadequate compared to my own younger siblings. My father say the fact I graduated and never been in a position to raise kids early is a good thing. Yeah sure, tell yourself that,

@mugiwaramaster try not to look at it that way. Things may be rough right now but thats only temporary. I can relate to you though. A point of my life i felt overshadowed by my siblings. My younger brother was big on sports, got all the girls, worked a decent job. My sister had her job and i was there unable to find anything living as a NEET because my social skills were shot. But 3 years later and im doing well above my siblings in terms of money and success. No gf but its not a big deal. Just hang in there man.

Never been into one. I don't like it, but I am not miserable because of it... maybe I WAS, but I am learning to accept people's opinions and reality, thus meaning I not only need to be a better person, but to be more "normal" as well. Not to mention working on my appearance and body.

"The 40 thing only applies for women. Typically men dont want a woman past a certain age. Women think its ok to party in their early years and then rush last minute before their eggs dry up to settle down with a dude" @hell_hound7 From someone that's close to that big 40 mark, I can honestly say that's not how it was for me. I would have been willing to settle down with someone in my 20s just as I am now in my 30s, but I just hadn't met the right person. I understand your frustration with the opposite gender, because I have been in the same boat. But all it takes is a couple of decent relationships that end amicably for you to see that they're not all shitheads. It is possible for things to end on good terms, though it might not happen very often. The point is, you can't go into a relationship expecting that person to treat you like shit or it's going to end up a shitty situation.

@verucassault not the case for you but the case for many. Just an observation based on info from myself, others and seeing it happen real time from female friends. Just jaded is all uwu. Not everyone is like that but with an overwhelming majority as it seems these days women arent what they were when my parents were my age, or my grandparents were my age. It seems the culturehas shifted to sort of nurture this type of behavior. Party while you can because if you settle down you cant party anymore.

I don't think most old dudes are thinking about having kids when they're already sleeping with one. Just a thought... As for the party mentality being something for this generation? Ever heard of flappers? I may not be religious, however I do agree with this... Ecclesiastes 1:9 9 What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun. Just my two cents here. Every generation always romanticizes the last.

Im not saying people such as "flappers" didnt exist in those times ofc they did. But the ratio of said "flappers" compared to the common housewife model probably wasnt the same. Not saying women should all be housewives slaving over a stove but encouraging that its ok to go cheat on your partner as many women in this age do? (yes they literally tell each other its ok to do) just a quick glance through tik tok which is pretty popular with people my age you can see this for yourself.