help with myself..

The best way to love yourself is to stop loving others actively. Use all of that energy on yourself. In many ways, you should be selfish. Now that doesn't mean you have to be completely selfish, but when it comes to your wants, needs, and happiness (hell even sanity) the best medicine is just developing that mindset that you're the most important thing in your life. Maybe you aren't the most important thing in the world, the universe, history, whatever, but from your own first person perspective, you're number one for a reason. Also realize, that no matter what you do, you can't control anyone else around you, only yourself, so might as well come to terms with the fact that no one's going to do it for you. To be fair, it's a struggle. There will always be days, weeks, months, regardless, where you feel like you don't love yourself, but it's only an emotional reaction in your body. A challenge, you might say. The goal is to use your thoughts to find a way out of that.