Most sought after trait in significant other?

If you seem to only attract a certain type, maybe it's time to look into yourself and see why you talk to those people to begin with. Humanity is filled with such variety, so in my opinion, you have to look at why it is you seem to attract certain types. Instead of looking at just what you want ask what you are offering. As for me? I look for patterns. If someone starts off a certain way and seems to hold on to those particular values they first showed you, that's always a good sign. I look for a willingness to open up and be vulnerable. I mean, I'm making myself vulnerable by opening up, why shouldn't I expect the same? I try to look at the basics. You can have different hobbies/likes, but what is at your core that would make you an asset to me and me an asset to you? I look for a partner/teammate. I don't know what the future holds, but while we're figuring that out, I'd rather it be us than an I vs you kind of thing. Another thing I look for is, can we be comfortable just being in the presence of each other without a particular distraction that we always have to do in order to keep occupied. In other words, can you just sit in silence and still appreciate their presence? Also, I do believe in the whole "love language" thing. That's not to say that we have to be in love in order to have that particular connection, but we should understand what intimacy means for each other. It's like this, I love physical contact (It doesn't have to be sexual in nature.) and emotional honesty. I look for a partner who wants to have that particular kind of comfort. Things are always much more complicated than that, but those are just a few of the beginning basics.

Hmmmm... Why I attract desperate people/unstable women? There's definitely a pattern with it. Probably how I talk? I assume they feel safe/content talking to me since I'm usually approachable. Also, bad luck probably too. With that said, a more stable woman would be nice. I can't fall for someone who likes me after a day or two. Feels unnatural. Also, unstable women get tiring since most are overly dramatic

^ I feel so targeted guess I'll stop talking to ya to broken for you

I'm not talking about you @liloreo

"The ability to have rational independent thought." Hey, that's me! :)

Nah, you aren't hard to talk with lilo. Trust me

Those that are unstable often look like the easy option. They're broken and they're looking for someone to be their glue. They present good things, but always with a sour twist. Often times, they attach quickly since they're looking desperately for some sort of stability. Those that don't need someone to fulfill them, they often seem a bit more unobtainable. They don't need you, but instead, they're looking for an addition.