Afraid to date that or this

idk if this even answers ur question but i guess im afraid to date in general but at the same time, I longed to be in a relationship. Being wanted and loved to me is like one of the best feelings ever. Its great to have someone that'll comfort and support u no matter what while also knowing that ur able to do the same for them. However once u lose someone like that-- i wouldnt be abe to help but think whats wrong with me and just hate myself for it So im afriad of being overly attached to someone cuz once they walk out of ur life-- id feel extremely heartbroken </3 and thats exactly what happened--

Just the fear of failing someone or not doing my best for that person or to disappoint them really feels scary. I want someone but I know personally no matter how well I do in talking or trying to get their attention or expressing my emotions openly will I ever actually say that I “like” them in order to ask them out or even I did get to that point I’m afraid of what happens if it didn’t work out because of me, or should I have even wasted the other persons time and just stayed friends. I just don’t wanna be boring or drag them down or barrage them with my problems with out being considerate of them, because I believe in improvement and goal achieving and I don’t like the notion of making someone feel like they’re dating down, and not as good as they see me or to be a pity case. I’d rather someone date better than me if I couldn’t do good enough for them. Both the before and after scare me a lot.

Dating a brickwall that only respond by the shortest answer possible without alimenting the conversation at all, worst nightmare. Dating someone that knows everyone where you're dating also. It would feel like it's a date with everyone around. But i don't think i wouldn't date someone depending on their look, no matter if she looked younger or older than me i guess, if i'm attracted to her i wouldn't be scared to date her. Oh ! Someone with really bad attitude too, i would feel bad for everyone she is talking to.

i can relate. same situation for me. everyone thinks i look about 19ish give or take a year. which btw is like 7 years younger than what i am. its a problem in the dating world for me. I dont mind. But from what ive dealt with. Older chicks or girls around my age dont bat an eye to me becuz they think im too young and All the younger chicks always go for me. Which like i said i have no issue with, BUT becuz its only the younger chicks, it kinda is a no zone. becuz my actual age is usually to high for them to accept when they eventually ask or i awkwardly tell them upfront. and it ends before it starts. looking younger than your actual age only benefits you when your a middle aged adult like 35 lol. other than that. its mostly a curse to be forever alone or hard to find someone that accepts you. i feel for you. hang in there.

I've dated a few guys who have been afraid of dating "in the open", since we are gay. In my country we are very accepting, and such, but it can still be hard. I, as many others, ain't a stereotypical gay person, and no one would suspect anything until they see it happening in-front of them. I am very open, so I don't fear it, but I understand why many do. I guess I am afraid to not be with someone who can be as open with our relationship as I am. That and people with spiders as pets. I don't fuck with no spiders.