Can People Just Stop Being Creepy and Hostile

No means no. If you do anything and she's not feeling it, stop. It's so simple. There's a time & place for everything. She may just change her mind and actually attempt to talk to you if you actually respected her wishes. Unfortunately, some of you take that as a challenge. It's not.

Making connections with people means taking new responsibilities. If your friend accepted someone and started chatting - it is their responsibility to reply in time. Internet does not have any personal contact and it's different from real life meetings where if you don't want to talk to somebody - you simply don't. In Internet you can chat to thousands of people just like that, but is it a good idea? If your friend replied to those "needy creeps", then she's taken a responsibility. Needy, creepy - call it however you want, they are still humans with feelings. "several of them have been driven away from MO because of people being creepy or hostile for no reason and it's just sad." - then those several were not interested in having you as their friend. Please, don't blame "creeps and needy" if others stop talking to you. It is extremely easy to find people that might not be "creepy" and it is extremely easy to create a safe space on Skype/Discord or any other messenger where no other people would disturb you. That is if you want to chat to THEM and not everyone. Internet's connections aren't as easy as you want them to be and it's only your responsibility to protect yourself.

I chat with a few people often here, if I get signals of non-interest I tend to just get gone, some of ya all make it difficult... gettin all nervous and then not replying just because ya'all so nervous... So I generally will wait like 3 days and if no reply then I just like "If you wanna chat lemme know and May your life be free from suffering and filled with joy" or something similar. Sometimes people send wrong signals, sometimes people interpret signals incorrectly... There are so many things.. Gonna paraphrase a story from Sun Tzu here (and its abridged) So some king goes to Sun Tzu and is like "Yo Sun Tzu!" Sun Tzu he is like "Hey whats up" The king is like "how would you make my country strong" Now Sun Tzu was like "I am gonna show you by training all your wives and whatnot for war" Sun Tzu trains them all and now the head wives during a day of testing in front of the king messed it all up, they barely followed orders, and none of the lesser wives did anything of worth and they were giggling and stupid crap like that.... So what did Sun Tzu do.... he executed (beheaded) the Head Wives and now the king is all freaking out and crazy, but immediately Sun Tzu is like "Now do the exercise as I taught you" They did it perfect, in sync just awesome Sun Tzu turned to the king and was like "If the orders are clear and not followed its definitely the fault of the soldier, if the orders are not clear and stuff still gets whack, then its the fault of the officer" I forget why I brought this story up, I was gonna connect it somehow, to much green medicine

@takoyakimo - You completely misunderstood the whole thing. Firstly; It's not mine or my friend's responsibility if shit gets bad when we start talking to weirdos because we almost always have absolutely no clue or indication that they're creepy from the off because their whole idea is to lure you into a false sense of security before being freaks, asking for nudes and shit. They're the ones starting this crap. Secondly; it has absolutely nothing to do with these nice people not wanting to be my friends because I always make sure to get their Discord, Skype, Steam, Kik, whatever and they explicitly tell me directly they leave the site because creepers and nasty individuals make them feel unwelcome and they feel like they would never find a friend here which is fucked up and is NOT the fault of me or my friends - so don't assume what they are thinking when you don't know them. I do. Thirdly; if you're like me and you have confidence and you take the initiative to talk and get to know people then yes, making friends through internet connections is easy, like... Really fucking easy - much easier than real life despite the physical distance having friends in different countries and all. Fourthly; IT'S ALWAYS THE CREEPY FUCKER'S FAULT. EVERY. FUCKING. TIME. Don't go victim blaming when it's toxic fuckers like these that are the crux of the issue and are the ones causing all of these problems for the community without fail, especially the female side of MaiOtaku who are sadly the primary targets. These buggers are completely detestable and should fuck off. But sadly they probably never will. The end. Please know what you're talking about before criticizing me or others for shit that clearly isn't our fault.

Damn what an interesting thread to follow. Let's be honest here guys, the creepers are the real victims here. They've been rejected by society to the point that they've shut themselves in long enough to forget how to be normal. @InfernalMonsoon, your friends are the real bullies that didn't give these people attention at EVERY WAKING MOMENT OF THEIR LIVES!! Lol. All jokes aside, I think the real problem is that people forget basic etiquette when coming to websites such as this one. They assume that since it's a "dating" website, their prayers towards loneliness would automatically be answered. They probably developed such high expectations that they become hostile once they don't get what they want. Couple that with being on the internet and behind a computer screen, it amplifies that terrible behaviour. I think people in general should come to these sites with an open mind much like going to a meet up in real life, expecting more of just meeting a fellow otaku and becoming friends than hooking up or finding the love of your life. IMO, MaiOtaku is more of a hub for fellow anime nerds than a dating site. @takoyakimo And no, just because you accept a friendship and start chatting does not mean that you're obligated to instantly reply. If you want to go by that logic then why isn't the latter obligated to respect that person and understand that they have a life? It's been a while since I've been on here but when I was more active before, there were many times when I couldn't reply until the next day and same with the next person. However, it was a mutual understanding that people are just busy and you'll continue the conversation when you can. MaiOtaku is suppose to be a fun community thing, positive vibes plz. ^.^

@sleepless - I'm with you on that one man, I almost never get haughty like that but when someone says something dumb or misunderstands the point that badly then it's only normal I get like that. And you're so right, nobody has to instantly reply - we all have things to do, I try my best to reply but sometimes I'm just too busy and sometimes I'm waiting days for a friend to reply but it's really not an issue when they have things to do and there's plenty more people to talk to you know? And you're right, it's okay to be blunt and get our points across but let's always push for those positive vibes whenever we can and make everyone feel welcome as much as possible!

@Infernal it's pretty easy to figure out who will ask for nudes. Honestly, if creeps that ask for nudes is the thing that scares you, you haven't seen the true nature of Internet. I've been abused by people who pretended to be my friends only to get info on how to troll me, I've had animal rape porn sent to me and multiple death messages. Nudes are the easiest thing to deal with and perverts are easy to figure out. I also see zero connection between those who dislike that you don't respond properly and those who ask for nudes. You need to stop acting like a precious diamond, not all guys have eyes on you just because you're a female - learn that. Well, you yourself said that some people stopped talking to you because of creeps. Explain yourself properly if you want to be understood. Thing is, you can complain and complain and throw this "I'm a girl, protect me" at people around you, but this won't solve the problem. Close your private messages, make your profile visible only to friends, avoid web-sites that encourage bad behavior - magic! It is easy because the friends you make won't remember who you are in 5-6 months. It saddens me how the word "friend" dropped down to "we send memes to each other... once in a week. We're friends!" And my point was not in what's easy, read it again. Scream as much as you want, I don't care. You have all the tools you need to avoid those "FUCKING CREEPS", yet you choose to spend your time on a web-site which is the easiest for them to lurk on. I guess, girls like you really do like to feel special and abused by the creeps. As of blaming, if you can write "IT'S ALWAYS FUCKING CREEPS FAULT AAAAAAA" and then say that I am the one blaming people - well, what else can I tell you? Learn how to understand others if you want to be in a safe space without any creeps, learn to use the tools provided to you. It's almost like those elitists who would post "don't talk to me" memes and etc... on a social network. @sleepless appreciate the fact that someone spends their time on you. Life is short and it is simply ignorant and selfish to start a conversation with someone and then stop talking or not respond in time. What, you want to tell me that you go with your friends in a cafe and then chat with someone else while you are "spending time with that friend"? I understand that the thrill of meeting a new person is exciting but your selfishness and encouragement of shallow bonds is only an indicator of how abusive you are. @Kaito-kun, and apparently you've enjoyed being stalked. Oh well, why am I surprised? Don't expect an answer from me. Sorry, I have better things to spend my time on. Bye-bye.

Lololol oh my wonderfully silly baka... so you've gotten to the point of referencing jokes that were obviously mutual as "evidence" by putting them out of context? xDDDDDDD Nice try, you silly arthropod :P Can I ask you a muli part question? Have any females on this site deactivated (multiple times) cuz you kept harassing them? Have any then followed it up by blocking you here (and on apps such as skype and discord) cuz you kept harassing them after they told you to fuck off? Have any then changed their age to 17 in an attempt to keep their profile private from you? Haha you don't have to answer any of those questions cuz we both already know the answer! Yayyyyy So anyways, this site will never be rid of these creeps... I mean, things that were definitely NOT mutual jokes, there are some members that lie about dating a girl from this site, and even do things like taking a girl's pics from her gallery (without her consent) and use them as his own ava in discord chats. Yeesh I really cringe at that one! Creeeeeeeeeeeepy as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck! But it shouldn't be surprising what their level of delusion and creepy state of mind is, cuz it's these same creeps on this site that admit to trying to kill a squirrel, and when it was still half alive, start squeezing it cuz it made noises that reminded him of the moans that female japanese porn stars make. What's really disturbing is I'm not making that up... That's not even lowkey creepy... that's lock your doors and carry pepper spray creepy!