Is It Going to Work Out?

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If you want to break off cause you got high on the cupcake/honeymoon phase than go ahead :/. If you regret it, than it's on you. Then again, it isn't wrong to want more.

Now wait a moment Dagger, first off, I should not have to defend myself or be content with your idea of a functioning relationship because I'm not you or your girlfriend. If that's how you two work things out then great. A while to me is a few years in, not barely one. Even at that length I know couples who put a lot of time, energy, and effort into loving someone they are with constantly (It's rare) Why should I not want to feel appreciated and special all the time or given more attention? The point of going out with someone is to enjoy their time and company, if you aren't getting that and you feel more lonely or the relationship is more platonic feeling than romantic that to me is an issue. Actions speak to me and so far I've been only getting empty words. I like to be flirted with, I like to know I'm being thought about, and I like that someone takes an interest into my likes, dislikes. Don't fault me because I would rather see consistency than complacency. Also I realize its not bad to be comfortable with someone, but once in awhile you need to stoke the fire otherwise it burns out. Which is where I am. My feelings are swaying which is why I'm asking for opinions. I'm not saying I even need to be taken on dates. I just would like some effort in where it matters. Here is an example to where he doesn't even listen to me. For Christmas, I hinted a couple of times that all I wanted was a small cat silhouette tattoo to dedicate my pet Jinx. He must have not remembered because he was asking me if he could update my Xbox which I declined because I would have rather gotten a tattoo the size of a dime over my heart. Which maybe would have been 50 at the most. Instead I got a bracelet and shirt, head band and a key chain. Which probably was the same exact cost. They were nice gifts and I didn't hate them, but it wasn't at all what I wanted. Here are some other points. I'm the one who coordinates when our schedules are free, I'm the one who picks the dates when we do go out because he can never decide even when I don't want to pick because he'll shoot down most of them. He almost runs late all the time because he won't leave his house until the very last min or later because he was in the middle of being in a game and not paying attention to the time. If hes been drinking and we make plans, he will forget the whole conversation so I have to remind him. If I make suggestions for movies that are exclusively playing (EXAMPLE Mary and the Witch Flower) I want to see or tag him on media that I'd like to see it (Even when I offer to pay) he won't see when they are playing so we can go and we end up missing the premiere. Those are honestly just nitpicks because what he doesn't do is just do out of the blue things like even taking pictures together, I hate myself in photos as much as the next person but he barely will take any with me. He won't flirt or do small gestures that says "I'm thinking of you" or "Your important to me" That's just basic things that should be natural. Me wanting those things isn't asking much really. I'm already affectionate, loving, sweet, faithful, I always praise him and compliment him on how great I think he looks and how funny he is. I give these things but it seems to difficult to return the same gestures. I'll spend time on drawing and making him stuff. Even after being so good to him its like me wanting a bit more affection or effort on his end than what he gives is asking way too much.

Communication is a two way street, but if someone is doing all the communicating and the other one isn't absorbing or listening to what you are saying than that to me shows a lack of caring of that persons feelings. I've voiced my concerns and have been patient to see if things will go a better way, but so far its been exactly the same. Why is it when I can do it after a long extended time still show my love in a way he knows he is loved on my end, but he doesn't and somehow that makes me the needy, whiny girlfriend. I have my flaws like him, but somethings can't be overlooked if someone really wants them. At least I show it and make it apparent. It'd be nice if I could be on the receiving end of it.

Even on the occasional date, he doesn't hold my hand, or put his arm around me, kiss me on the cheek, head, lips if we are out together, or give any sign or indication that we're a couple. He walks close to me and that's about it or we share food. That's about it. -.-*

Surprised no one has said this yet; is it just me? It's usually just me. Tend to have very different viewpoints... To be blunt being in a relationship with you sounds like a fuck ton of tiring back breaking work. (This coming from a person who tends to just really enjoy the presence of people I like.) Most people at least mentioned the honeymoon phase which I guess kinda plays into things? I mean I dont really think the honeymoon phase should ever actually end. I mean its okay if it does, but like Midas said it doesn't always, though it is rare. But I really do think its best that way. Okay, maybe the phase could mellow out, but it shouldnt ever go. Honestly....Not knowing a damn thing about either of you I am still pretty sure the problem lies in you, not him. Reading through this stuff; looks like you just want want want want this and that, attention, gifts, whatever. Sounds really tiring. Shouldnt really need all that to keep a relationship stable; that joy you get from all that work should just be on default by now. Stuff like this gives females such a bad rep I dont even wanna identify as one sometimes >_> You're gonna suck his life essence away... By all means, leave him be. Again speaking from an ignorant stand point, you're probably the type better suited for dating rather than settling down. Theres plenty of pampering there.