how many partners can somebody have??

Different strokes for different folks I always say. Some people aren't meant for monogamy and that's perfectly fine if you are honest about it at least. But here's some advice, do what makes YOU happy. You don't owe anyone a thing. If it feels right and you can live with it then you'll be just fine. I personally wouldn't want an open relationship, but that's me and I don't like to share. XD

I mean I try to be accepting of others views, but it's this one thing in particular that rubs me the wrong way, which is fairly rare for me. I find it belittling to men everywhere. Maybe it's irrational, but I feel like if I ignore that feeling then I'll lose something important. I feel a similar way when it's the other way around, it just feels less personal. People can live their own lives and some can probably get along in that manner, and I suppose that's fine.

I feel the same because everyone has an equal right to be either jealous or argue with this type of decision when it comes to trying to make a Harem for ones self. When it comes to me I nearly had an harem of my own but he didn't feel quite right.

OK I THOUGHT I WAS CLEAR ABOUT THIS BUT I GUESS NOT ???? I DO NOT SUPPORT POLYGAMY im never planning on having sex so it wouldnt be "fooling around" will i ever actually end up making a harem of sorts or ACTUALLY DATING MORE THAN ONE GUY? no, never. this question was entirely hypothetical

None of that changes anything. If anything I would imagine actual polygamy would make it a little better, since there's at least dedication behind it. Whether it's more than one guy at a single time, or more than one guy over a period of time, I think it's bad to go into a relationship that you're not serious about. That's what I call fooling around, even if there's no sex involved, you're fooling around with their emotions, hopes, and desires. There are plenty of places in the world where polygamy is legal, though afaik they're all 3rd world countries. I can't exactly say that it's "wrong". It's not because of the marriage aspect. It's because of the relationship aspect. Of course you're bound to find men who feel the same way you do, so if it's something you really wanna do, then there's likely no stopping you. You're also bound to find a lot of places where plenty of people would support the idea, but not so much in a place full of geeks looking for true love. On the other hand, if it's a question of treating every relationship seriously, and merely failing at the relationship and having to start a new one, I don't think there's any particular limit, morally speaking anyways. Personally I find someones intentions questionable if I've found the person has had more than two boyfriends, not that they can't be serious, but that I would be worried. If I ever found out they had more than one boyfriend or partner at a time, I would likely lose all romantic feelings for that person.

So as long as everyone is aware and consenting, I don't see the problem. Calling it a "harem" seems a bit objectifying, though.

Call me a romeo but I'm the kind of person who settles on that one person I think is REALLY great, any kind of poly relationship is just far too weird for me and that whole friends with benefits is empty in my opinion so yeah, one awesome girl is enough for me! But I won't judge anyone if they want more than one as long as everyone involved knows about it and are okay with it - you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings with this kind of stuff.

I feel like dating more then one person at once will just cause more drama then you need, I mean look at the problems and drama you can sometimes get from dating one person. Why would anyone in the right mind want to double, triple fold that? You'd have to be insane or a masochist.