I don't know if I like my bf anymore

Hi. As the sentence sound, Idk if I like my bf that much anymore. We've only been a couple for soon three weeks. And we're in the same class, and I loved being around him and I hated weekends because that meant I wasn't going to see him for two days. Like it was the only thing that let me out of bed in the mornings. I was so happy when he confessed to me and I didn't wanted to be without him. But now it feels a little like a pain to see him, especially if he want to stay over the night. I don't want to say no bcs I don't have any good reason to say no. And it feels bad to say to your parther that "I want to sleep alone tonight" I want to love him, I really do. He's the best partner I've ever had. He's the first serious person that actually loves me for real and love me for me. I trust him. I suffer from pretty bad depression and anxiety. Can it have something to do with it? I feel like I'm pushing him away from me.. He was here a few hours yesterday and watched anime, he sat on my bed and I sat on the couch. He always want to touch me somehow (not in the dirty way, like holding hands ect..) And I can find it annoying. I think it's enough to just be close or be in the same room. He's a bit too clingy. It feels like he gets into a bad mood if I don't want to be stuck to him 24/7. I've never wanted family or friends to touch me but I've longed to have a partner to cuddle with, and now I push him away..Why?

Have you tried communicating with him? I mean, it is natural for things to change on how you feel. But right now in just my personal opinion. I have a feeling you might just be overthinking it and still possibly need some time to adjust to the relationship in general. It kinda sounds like, you're also not used to having someone nearby all the time. Maybe adding a little personal space to try and adapt to it. I am certain that if you really do like him, and he does so vice versa. He will listen to you. This is a pretty common thing I often see. Someone believes they're head over heels but, have some problems with change. Sometimes slowing it down a peg but commiting to the relationship as the purpose can solve somethings. If not, it gives you a chance to decide if it really is what you truly want. Don't jump to breaking up as the first decision, but if it truly isn'( what you want. It is unfair to the both of you to try to selfishly make something that isn't working, work.

I think sendom pretty much has it nailed down for the most part. Not having a relationship for a long time (despite probably yearning for one) and then all of a sudden *BAM* I now have a bf is a big adjustment. You're probably used to setting up and dictating when you want to hang out with friends and other people and were comfortable using your downtime when alone as you saw fit. Now there's a guy (who did the confessing and asked you out) who wants to spend as much time as possible with you, be somewhat touchy/feely (aka PDAs) with you, and want to do a lot of the things a couple generally would. That's a pretty big 180 to your social life, and if this is your first real bf, that adjustment isn't going to happen overnight. My suggestion to you would be to talk to him and set some framework. Try to work out somewhat of a schedule where you can spend some time together and try to let him know what you're comfortable with as far as holding hands, touching, etc. Most guys who are genuinely interested in you will make the effort to adjust to what you're most comfortable with. If he was single for a long time and now finally has a gf, he may not have much of a filter when it comes to PDA and/or is just trying to express his feelings toward you in the best way he knows how and they maybe over reaching your personal comfort zones, especially just being a few weeks into new a relationship. As long as you're open and honest and communicate your expectations to him and some of the issues you feel the early part of your relationship is having, I don't think it will be too difficult to find a happy medium if he's genuinely interested in making the relationship work and you are too. Anxiety and depression can definitely play a part in this too. Anxiety ramps up because you're not used to having so much attention brought on you and depression creeps in because you don't want to seem like you're a bad gf if you feel you're pushing him away too much as well as lowering your drive to be social and spend time with him. They're just things you're going to have to work with if you want to eventually find a happy relationship with him.

There isn't much I could add to this. Like Ssendom and RainX said, It sounds like you two will be fine if you discussed boundaries, and allow you to acclimate into it. I also couldn't help but be reminded of this as I read through. http://img13.deviantart.net/67fa/i/2014/287/1/9/how_to_live_with_introverts_guide_printable_by_romanjones-d5b09fj.jpg

I told him that it feels like my feelings for him is disappearing and I don't want that to happen. And I cried like hell. He took it really good and hugged me, but he said "I'm going home, we can't do much about it right now" I stayed in my bed and though really hard and I realized that I do love him. I just need some space and alone time once in awhile. We've met everyday and he have stayed over a lot so it got a little intense.. I just need to tell him that and I hope he haven't though about some other solution now when he's home.. But thank you everyone! Really good advice~

Three weeks and you say "love"? Love is a mighty big and mighty serious word. It sounds like you were infatuated(big difference and that's exactly what I'm seeing here), confused that for love, went full force by being clingy(As did he) and when the "feelings" dissipated, you started to see the real him, which isn't what your "feelings" were telling you. Love is not so much about "feelings" as it is about commitment and mutual sacrifice. It sounds like you tried to force a serious relationship very fast and that's not working for you. Take it slow, relax, enjoy the time together and the time alone.

Yeah, I personally wouldn't bust out the love word until ~2 months in. And that honest depends too. If you feel like you do, more power to you, I am not going to judge or critize you for choosing how you feel. They're your emotions own them for yourself. But, before you lose the chance on what seems like a wonderful man for you. I would immediately reach out to him, preferably in person as emotions are much more easily convey'd in person. And let him know, you do want him in your life. But, you want to slow things down just a little bit to get accustomed to the change. If you're open and honest with him 24/7, you'll never be the source of any problems. Any problems that would arise, would be able to be talked out at that point, since you will have the ability to communicate and get your feelings across to each other. Don't give up on him Maxi, you're able to handle this no problem! If you need anything. Message any of us any time. We'll be here for you!

There's no doubt that depression and anxiety can have an impact on how you interact with people, perhaps even more so with people you're very close to such as your boyfriend. When I'm feeling REALLY bad, I just want to be left alone where I won't have to deal with people and that includes a current partner. Most of the time I love to be around the girl I'm dating but on those bad days I often prefer to just be alone and while having alone time is definitely good in any relationship, too much of it can break you both apart. But then again, it could simply be a matter of losing interest in him - you can get together with someone who's kind, gentle, funny and caring but as great as you think they might be it doesn't necessarily mean you love them and it's probably your brain's way of telling you that he isn't really the one for you. I've experienced the same thing several times, I meet girls who I think are amazing and perfect for me but that connection either isn't there or it fades away very quickly into the relationship which really sucks but you can't help how you feel. It's not all bad though, in time that connection can definitely be established so I would suggest sticking it out a little while longer, hope that things eventually look up for you and him and if they do then great but if you feel that love and connection isn't there after a certain amount of time then it's probably time to move on. I always do believe that not being in a relationship is much better than being in one that clearly isn't going anywhere. That's just a little bit of advice from me, some people might say its bad but that's how I've experienced relationships in my life - regardless, I hope it all works out in the end :)