Is cheating acceptable?

@shinu thank you for your opinion I know what I did was wrong, I believe that both of us did a lot of things worng, and I agree that maybe I did most of them. I don't agree with cheating, but I believe it doesn't make you a bad person. A good thing about ending a relatioship is that you learn what you did wrong. :v Also, I never ended up with my classmate, so it wasn't 100% cheating, more a 80%/85% because I had intensions that I though would go right (but school ended and we spended 3 months apart, to come back and feel nothing more). In general I don't wanna do it again, and I decided to make it clear that I did a mistake in my life, so that if people don't wanna talk to me because of that I'm ok.

I certainly wasn't trying to call you a bad person. It's especially not the case if you can learn from your mistakes and not do them again. I don't want to make your ex seem like some angel either. I could only tell you what the likely behavior pattern he had as a result of your actions you described.

Whats so hard about breaking up with the person? I never understood cheating. If you want to be with someone else then you're obviously not satisfied with the person you're currently with. So break up with them and go do what you want to do. There is no excuse.

ok ok, let's move past it for now. She clearly understood the things being said now when she posted her story. Let's not let the convo get stagnant.

The biggest reason it was hard to break up was because he moved so that he could life closer to me (though I didn't asked for that and was pretty good with my long distance relationship). Everytime I would try to bring up the topic he would say "I moved for you, don't do this to me D: " and I would feel sad for him, that he did so much for me and I was throwing away all his work. Also I was a messy teenager with existencial crises dating for the first time in secret because he was an young adult. I waited until I was sure I could date again. I'm pretty messy everyone, I'm sorry

Depends on the manner of the cheating. Some people cheat due to a lack of control and some people have premeditated it. One of my exes texted me while she was cheating on me and told me casually like it was nothing to her. It was because she was frustrated at me for not being there alot and it made her feel like I was intentionally hurting her so she felt this was a good way to stick it to me. But, cheating out of spite really isn't cool either.

It's just one of those situations where being honest about your own feelings is what will help the both of you, even if it hurts him at first, it would have been better than the grief he had to endure later.

Salgahna obviously regrets it and is sorry for it, so let's leave the past in the past. It's done and forgiven as far as I'm concerned. No one wants to believe they'd be capable of something like that. That is, of course, until we suddenly find ourselves in the same situation. The only difference being that it's at an angle that looks far more sympathetic when we're the one in that scenario. None of us are 100% pure and clean, and I think most of us have hurt someone deeply at one time or another -- whether it be through cheating or some other method that may have been just as cruel, if not worse. Not excusing it, as I made clear earlier, but I think she's made her remorse about the incident quite clear. Time to let it go.

Why don't you let her speak for herself instead of trying to control what she can talk about? That's far more disgusting than whatever it is you think I'm doing.