Am I the only one who has a hard time trusting people who don't have friends of the same sex?

you assumed my insecurity was my own and when i said it wasnt it was still my fault for staying? your not giving me any leeway here your just being combative at this point

Because only you decide how you feel. If a woman splashes a drink in my face and walks away, I can get mad sure. And I have every right to be. As you might have a legit reason to feel insecure. My point is that you choose how you react to it. My being mad won't hurt her it only ruins my day. Just as your being insecure doesnt help you, justified or not. And yes it is on you. I'm not just trying to be combative

I would rather them have several/many friends of the opposite sex than one "special/best" friend of the opposite sex. Full disclosure, yes I was dumped for the "bestfriend" and it fucking sucked.

we are not robots voss we do not choose our emotions when your ignored and made to feel a dime a dozen you feel shitty and insecure did i choose to feel bad? no why would i do that? could i just leave him? no there was still love there things are not black and white voss

@lamby Thank you so much for posting that lamby! I mean seriously thank you! People have done some really shitty things to me and they told me that I should be able to handle my emotions better and basically just suck it up and not talk to anybody about it just because they were able to do the exact same thing that they were telling me to do. They were judging me by their own standards and what they could do because of the environment they were raised in that they had to be able to do that all their life and they expected me to be able to do the same even though I was raised in two completely different environment where I didn't need to be able to do that. Everyone handles their emotions differently and you can't help but feel the way you feel. You can do something about it to a small extent but it's not like a magical switch that you can flip to make everything okay or to allow you to function properly immediately or within a certain span of time.

I said quite clearly that it's in how you choose to react. By all means feel upset. But be willing to stand up for yourself. Maybe it's because I wasn't raised with an emotional wall of support but if I had such an issue it was fuck or walk for me. I had the same experience Lamby. I stayed, got hurt more. She left me. Things got better after a while of moping. Then she came back. I fell back to her like a puppy and things got shitty again. Taught me that sometimes you need to step back and see if a relationship is toxic for you. I never said it was easy. I know people aren't robots. But just because something is hard doesnt mean it does not need to be done.

Understand that I live in a world where at a certain point, you solve your own problems. Makes me come off as unsympathetic but that's only because I'm not looking for someone else to save me. You have a shitty bf. Do you wait for him to escalate hoping someone else will fix it?